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writes:I need advise and opions.Have you ever been in a bad relatioship where you feel as though you're under-loved, never missed and he could care less?What do you do when you feel yourself slowly falling out of love more each and every day? How do you let him go when you still feel so strong for him that it hurts, but can't stand to be with him anymore? i love my husband, but I feel torn between happiness, which I don't feel with him anymore, and living in hell with him for my kids.What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Never stay with someone for the sake of the kids, they wont thank you for it in the future. I know i have been in a situation like that. They turn around when they get older and say that you should of left years ago. If you are not happy then dont stay. Get out and make a new life for yourself and your kids. You will be a lot happier and healthier person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Without knowing what you marriage is like at its best and worst it is hard to give you advise.I would never reccommend staying with someone for your children, they are very good at picking up vibes and obviously, you as their parents are shaping the childrens ideas of what is considered acceptable and normal in an adult relationship.Have you talked to your husband about the way he makes you feel, despite what you think, sometimes men dont even realise how low their lady is and therefore continue as normal making the whole situation worse and leaving you wondering how they cant see a problem that is right under their nose.If you step back and look at your situation and do feel that the love and passion has gone and now the relationship is unhealthy for the children, then you know what has to be done. Have prioratise yourself and your children.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 i know it's easy for people to comment without any experience but i think that you shouldn't stay with someone just for the sake of your children. do you think your children would want you to stay in an unhappy marriage for them and your husband needs to know how you feel because it is unfair for him to think you are okay. if you feel you have given all you can give to this marriage and you have reached stale mate then i think it is time you put yourself first. your children will understand when they are older that sometimes life isn't as easy as first anticipated and that things go wrong but there is no point in staying in an dead marriage.do what you know is the best thing all round.
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