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51-59,
*ancying
writes:I was married 5 days ago and on our wedding night I danced with his brother before I did my husband. He is all upset and has not talked to me since. I have told him I am sorry but it doesnt seem to matter. What should I do?
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reader, nancying +, writes (12 October 2007):
nancying is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice we have worked thinks out and moved past it. Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Firstly, congratulations on your marriage!
I can understand why your husband is upset, how would you feel if he had danced with someone before you?
I'm not entirely sure what he expects you to do about it now though, you have said sorry, im sure you didnt even realise what you had done because that much was happening around you on your big day.
You have done all you can, leave him to simmer, im sure he will come round.
- oh perhaps you could set the scene: he comes home from work, your wedding song is playing, have your dance late, just the two of you, put your dress on if you like. Do a nice meal for after and make friends, lifes too short.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 oh dear! i thought you knew that the first dance at a wedding, any wedding, is between the bride and groom. not the bride and brother in law. he feels hurt because you chose to dance with his brother instead of him, how would you have reacted?
i think you need to explain that you didn't understand this but you'll never get your wedding day back and this is what is probably causing his upset. how insensitive of his brother to have the first dance with the bride.
my opinion - give him space but make him realise you didn't see it as a major thing but you understand his reasons for being upset and you are truely sorry.
best of luck
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