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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I have been in a long distance relationship for three months. We met on the internet and I'm 32, he is 30. We really like him and have a great time together. It has taken me a long time to find a guy I have shared interests with and we click well. He is a vet and works on call at the moment every other weekend. I have agreed to travel to see him when he is working so we can still spend time together. The weekends he is not working, I thought he would be visiting me but he has a very active social life which he invites me to be part of. He gets booked up seeing friends and going to events across the country. These are fun, but, cupid, I am so knackered!!!! I work a demanding job and also study part time. I'm happy to expect 3 hours travelling cross country when he is working but I don't want to spend half my weekend travelling, on little sleep and fitting in so many different activities in a day I'm too worn out to enjoy any of them.We start doing one thing and then just as I'm enjoying it with have to move on to the next activity/ friend/ event. He likes to live at such a fast pace and I am struggling to keep up. I know he likes to fit a lot into his free time since he works hard and likes to make the most of it. He has spoken about how his mother passed away a couple of years ago and since then wanted to make the most of life. What do I do? Can I convince him to slow it down a bit? I feel like if I talk to him about it he will think I'm boring.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 August 2021):
 Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Tell him how much you enjoy being with him but it is just too exhausting for you to keep up with his schedule. If he truly values you he will accommodate if he doesn't then at least you will get some well-deserved rest.
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