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writes:Hi agony aunts... i kinda have a story with a question at the end... Well... you know... my first time well... the first time I tried to have sex with my boyfriend I just couldn't do it, it hurt so bad... then i talked to some friends and they told me i should be relax, and the next time my boyfriend helped me to relax, with kisses and... idk haha... it didn't hurt... I realized I tense up a lot... then we did it again and i just couldn't... it was like... idk if it was pain or burning... or both... luckly he understood haha (3) some days later we did again and it was the same feeling, not quite nice actually and he told me that maybe it was because i'm kinda tight, so... next time i told him we should use lube or something... and... i'll tell u later if it works... xD if it doesn't i'll go to a doc... =S Because it doens't feel good and i'm not really likeing to have sex... well... when his... u know, is inside me... i hve no problems with a finger... but when it comes to 2... another story...So... idk if a lube will help or if i should go to the doctor before...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUhm... thank u guys xD I'll try... uhm... idk... when will i go to his house xD but... whatever... xD
Ahm... DieRomantic... he did that xD but... i think that maybe cuz I'm on finals right now in college I'm a little to stressed out bcuz of that... so i think that maybe that's why it only worked for the first time.. and... i'm prhasing just like i talk xD and... idk if i said that i... uhm... cum...? (xD) with all the alternatives... but not during... the act itself...
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reader, DieRomantic  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 haha nice way of phrasing things lol...okay well first things first your not weird cuz plenty of girls are like that. just tell your bf to loosen you up a bit mentally(kisses, massages, relaxing) and physically(fingering) and sooner or later you should feel more comfortable with having sex. and if it doesn't work over time then don't feel ashamed to go to the doctor. sex is suppose to be enjoyable.good luck. much love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Hello.What it sounds like that you have is the same thing that I had when I had sex for the first time. What your going through is normal, it's when the body is not relaxed enough for intercourse. I recommend you to try some lubrication such as Astro Glide or KY, and to try and do it slowly. If any pain continues, stop and try again later. Another problem could be is that your hymen is not used to being spread so quickly. (if you still have it because contrary to popular belief, it is possible to still have a hymen while having sex--the hymen is semi-elastic and it may not fully break until woman's first childbirth but each girl goes through different trials.) Try and masturbate with one finger and slowly progess, and over time you may be able to penetrate with 2 fingers.Finally, if nothing is working out, it's always a good idea to see an OB/GYN specialist (gynecologist).Good luck!
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