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anonymous
writes:Why am I not interested in guys or sex?I've been single for 2years now and I don't feel like being with anyone.I signed up on a dating site cause I felt like I wanted to meet a nice guy and fall in love and hold hands and so all the cute things lovers do.I get lots of emails but I don't reply to them. I'm just not into them. They are nice looking guys emailing me but I almost feel like they are annoying.I don't enjoy their attention or anything. I find them rather annoying.I don't feel like I want to get to know anyone.What is wrong with me? I don't believe in casual sex.Is like I want to but something is holding me back. and yes I loved my ex bf soooooooo much but he cheated and dumped me.I'm 23.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (21 March 2013):
 you say that you loved your ex a lot, but he cheated and dumped you. is it possible that this is effecting your desire to get back out there and open up?i know for me, once i got out of a past relationship where i got hurt, i was not looking for anything remotely serious for years afterwards. it wasn't intentional and i didn't consciously realize it was because of my ex, but after reflecting on it years later, i realized that was why. sometimes bad experiences, or hurtful ones, make us skeptical and downright not interested in trying again. this is pretty common. you didn't say how long ago it was that you and your ex broke up. but just give yourself a little time. eventually, i assure you, you will find someone who rocks your world and you'll get back into the dating game. you're just kinda blah right now. it happens. no worries. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2013): I don't believe in that online flattery and pretense of getting to know each other either, when what some guys really want is to get into your pants I do believe in online friendship yes, I have friends I've made online since I was a teen but I'm rather skeptical of dating online , I'd much rather meet someone in my day to day life, as to not being interested in sex maybe you're just not interested in sex with them, even if they're good looking, I think you're one of those that believe that to have sex there's got to be some emotion like love involved and that's perfectly fine, maybe because you don't have someone in your life now you are feeling uninterested in sex...
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reader, R1 +, writes (21 March 2013):
 Nothing wrong with you it's probably the quality of men on the dating site! There are some dodgy ones on there.
Get out, have fun with your mates and don't think about dating for a while. Your interest will come back naturally.
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