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writes: i think i am upset about things in my life..everyone i know except for maybe a few is basically with the first guy they really loved and in a relationship for years and on their way to getting married. I am in my mid twenties, went to college and have an assitant job which i can't stand and heartbroken still over the loss of my first boyfriend that ended over a year ago..we have been talking though. Little things get to me..my friend who is living with her b/f..she lost her job almost 2 years ago and had the luxury of taking time off and she didn't have to look for one right away. She got this surgery a year later which she didn't necessarily need so she has been out of work for 2 years and doesnt need to worry b/c her b/f is working..i think it just makes me jealous at times..she is a good friend of mine but that is how i feel inside at times and i feel bad. We also both never got our license..i mentioned i actually got my permit and want to take lessons and then i find out her b/f is trying to teach her stick shift..suddenly now she is getting her license too.I think i am just bitter because it seems like my friends have it all and i really don't right now. I dont feel very happy and before you know it i will be 30 years old and still single. I know that isn't a big deal but it is to me because I am too tired now alot of the times to go out and try to meet people. And i seem to get mad over little things like that..like suddenly its weird she wants to get her license as well..i know this is very petty..i just wanted to rant a little and hear feedback.Maybe i am just going through a bad time? because i think in general i am a good person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): You sound like a very good person. You're just in a bit of a rough patch. The first step it to stop comparing yourself to your friends. There is a saying that states, "The grass is always greener on the other side." This means that while other people may "seem" to have a "perfect" life, this may not be the case. Your friend may be miserable, but doesn't show it. Or even if she is truly happy, as her friend you should be happy for her. But it's hard to be happy for others when we are not happy with ourselves.
Work on getting your driver's license. Practice with family or friends and work on getting it. Join a book club or exercise class or any class that you have an interest in. That way you'll meet other people who are interested in the same thing. Meeting new people means making new connections and these may turn into new friendships. Once you concentrate less on being single and put yourself out there, you'll meet someone when you least expect it. Take care!
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reader, Chickb  +, writes (29 May 2010):
Hi.
You don't sound like a bad person at all& unnderstandibly I know how you feel as I'm unhappy with other parts of my life.
Everyone has a friend who they envy, it's normal. The thing is after reading about what you said about her- not working& being off work because she has a bf to support her well, honestly- I think that's lazy! I pride myself of having s job ( even though sometimes I don't enjoy it) but I earn MY money& don't have to ask my bf for it, that shows indepence hun!
You mention not having a bf gets you down, I know that feeling. Funny thing I was the same&now have a wonderful bf but I do think being in a relationship is over rated. Trust me. You will find a man, just stop worrying about it. My cousin was 35& never had a proper bf, well she worked herself up so much that she'd never marry etc... It was a sore spot for her especially because everyone commented on her being single. U know what!? She found someone, is married to now& has 2 kids! How? She stopped fretting& thought what will be will be!
As for the permit could it be she is jelous of you??? It's normally a sign when you say you will do something & then she does the same. Think about it.
I'm 27 & am trying to get my drivers licence, I failed 3 times& I hate myself sometimes because I feel like a loser that I can't drive... That's my sore spot just as yours is being single.
Everyone is struggling with something in their life/even if they appear to have it all.
Good luck hum and private message me if you wish to talk further.
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