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writes:I'm dating someone right now and I am absolutely in love with him. We started out as friends and things just got better and better until we finally reached where we are now. He has already told me that he loves me and I, him though we aren't really an official couple yet - we talked about this. I'm worrying now about his ex. Hes only been with one girl before me... so I'm dealing with a first love here. There were together pretty long and her family loves him!!! They keep in touch regularly until this day and now, her family wants him to go over because they miss him!I am feeling incredibly insecure and jealous!!! I don't know what to tell him... I don't feel like I have the right to stop him or if I even think of trying.. what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): hiya hun i am going through the exact same thing with my boyfriend, we have only been together a couple of months but he was with his first love for 3 years and it kills me thinking that he once loved her. i am forever checking up on her facebook, and im so insecure that she is prettier/better than me etc.even though my past is far worse than his..i still think about it every day... and i dont know why cos the past wont ever go away :S i dont really have a solution to your problem but i just thought i would send you a message so you know its not only you out there..the best piece of advice i would give is to talk to him about it..at the end of the day he should understand why you are curious. and you might get some awnsers..and nobody is betta to reasure you than him just try it hun. i hope i have been some help :)
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reader, Lamb  +, writes (6 November 2008):
i think maybe you should go with him to the ex's parents' :)
seriously, i believe you can trust that he does love you. but he needs to demonstrate your importance in his life. perhaps u could try getting to know the ex, if they are still friends. if he's not willing to show the world he loves you, i'd be asking why.
good luck, i hope you work things out. ain't new love grand?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is going to visit. He told me he would... he didnt ask me if he could, he told me. They're story basically is she broke it off with him, but in the end, she ended up going after him again but he wanted it over already.
As for me introducing him to my parents, we arent even together yet... wouldn't that making him meet my parents be a little too soon?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Sound him out about this, see how he feels about her, who finished it and whether he is going to visit her parents. You need to know these things to see where you stand.
It says a lot about him that the parents like him so much. Maybe you could introduce him to yours.
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