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writes:Hi,A new guy has just started at my workplace (last few weeks). He doesn't seem to talk to anybody much except the children (we work at a school). He does not wear a ring so I don't think he's married. Since he first started, my colleagues have been teasing me about him, saying he's really good-looking etc... (They know I'm single) so I asked one of them if they knew what his name was as I hadn't spoken to him yet, and they told me who he was. I still didn't speak to him for a few days after that. Then one day he had to come into the classroom I work in to bring some children in. I said thanks and he muttered under his breath and sort of acted shy and couldn't look at me...Last week, he came into work later than me and he was waiting in reception for someone to let him in so I went and opened the door for him. I smiled and said "hi and said his name". I looked him straight in the eyes when I did it. He looked straight back at me with a smile on his face and said thanks. I didn't see him again for a couple hours. Then when I saw him again, he was in the sports hall with some children. I had to collect the children to go back to my class. This guy turned to me to ask me if the children were going with me and I said they were. Then later on, I went to walk back through the sports hall as a shortcut through the school and the man stopped me to tell me the cleaners were in there. As far as I can tell, I seem to be the only one he really says ANYTHING to, and he only spoke to me after I made the point of saying hi to him as I mentioned earlier. Last Thursday, he was in work again and I had to go into the classroom he was in to pick some children up to take back to my class. One of the children I had to collect was standing next to him (the man was sat down) trying to tell the man that he was going with "Mrs my name". (I am not married, so really the boy should have said Miss, and they guy hasn't asked if I'm married). I went right up next to this man to collect the boy stood next to him, and the man didn't even look up at me. I felt the tension though and am not sure if he is shy or just not interested.Do you think this is because he thinks I'm married and he likes me, but now he 'thinks' I'm married he feels embarassed?I admit I like him and want to get to know him better, but I don't know if he has girlfriend, if he likes me, or even how to approach him as we are rarely on our own, but I seem to be the only one he really speaks to.He is around the same age as me. Thanks for your help!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (28 May 2011):
 Ask him, 'Do you have a partner?' If he says no ask him to meet you for a coffee somewhere. It's that easy.
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (28 May 2011):
If he wants to know if you're married, he's probably just going to look for a ring and figure it out. He sounds shy. If you want to get to know him, you might have to do a good portion of the legwork... making conversation and whatnot. He'll probably love you for it.
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