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writes:Hi there.So, today I met a guy and he seemed very interested in me. I was sort of interested, but not as interested as he seemed. We ended up exchanging phone numbers, and he told me to message or call him just to say hi.Usually I don't have a problem with situations like this - it's happened before - but with this guy I don't know if I should contact him. I get the feeling that if I contact him with interest he'll think I'd be interested in having a serious relationship, when I'm not sure if I want that with him (only met him once). He told me he was sick of being screwed around by women and wanted "something special" then told me to give him a buzz. I want to get to know him better, but I don't want him to get the wrong idea. I'd definitely be interested in fooling around with him, but how do I communicate this to him without leading him on thinking I want to be his serious girlfriend? How do I reply casually to him without sending the wrong message?Guys, if you were interested in a girl and she told you she wanted to see you casually, instead of exclusively, how would that make you feel? Would you take it or leave it?Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers. I have decided to let this one go, as I feel as though I would be deceiving him if I were to go out with him as I can't see myself with him long term.
I haven't contacted him, and he hasn't contacted me either. I'm kinda glad he hasn't.
Thanks again!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 April 2010):
It depends how a man feels about the girl. I think he's looking for more than just something casual, and he's pretty much said that. So I think the kindest thing to do would be to let him find someone who can offer him that. You don't want to end up being seen as another woman who has hurt him. Let him go.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 You must run the risk. You absolutely must be clear with him and tell him that you are interested in him but for the moment only casually,no strings attached.
Otherwise how can we ladies keep whining about dishonest men who are never clear about what they really want and lead you on etc. etc. - if we do exactly the same to them ? :)
Would a guy take or leave an offer like yours ? A wide majority would happily take it- and maybe this guy will too, he'll just decide that while he's waiting for his special one he might as well have some harmless fun with you.
Of course he might be really meaning what he said and not be looking for a casual fling but just for a committed relationship. Again, you must risk him rejecting your offer. Be upfront and don't play games. You don't want to be a user, right ?
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