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writes:I'm a bit insecure about being a guy with feminine features, and I'm hoping for some advice.I'm 23 years old and outside of one time in which a girl I'd consider really attractive initiated a make-out session with me in a club, I have pretty much no sexual experience. The fact I spent the majority of my time at college being reclusive, having only just started socialising again in the last year, accounts for a lot of this. But now as a virgin who hasn't dated in a long time, the casual stories most of my friends have about girlfriends and boyfriends, ex's and past sexual encounters leaves me feeling like a kid in a room of adults. Also, I won't lie and say I'm not too interested in dating/casual sex -- it occupies a large part of my focus day to day.Anyway, this inexperience has left me a bit insecure, and part of me looked for something to blame. I had the entire "what is my penis is too small and I look like a loser when I do get to having sex?" thing, and a variety of other insecurities putting me off, but after reading up on it and (ashamed to admit but here we go) and going cam to cam with a woman I'd openly encouraged to mock me if I were underendowed, and she definitely would have, I've been reassured on that front. But she did pick up on the "contradiction" of my face being more like that of a girl. I've been mistaken for a girl at least ten times over the last few years, and I guess I feel like it takes away from my masculinity and suchlike. My main question going forward is... Should I try to change my features to become more manly and if so what would you recommend, or is being a somewhat feminine guy who's still quite attractive in his own way something I should just play as an advantage?
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reader, itcantjustbeme  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 I would never recommend any plastic surgery because its plastic, fake.The best way you can seem more masculine without surgery is facial hair. Find a good look for your face, something you like and compliments you. I'm figuring if you want something more manly, try something that lines your chin, giving it a falsely squared look. http://facialhairstyles.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/beardtypes.jpgI suggest, chinstrap, hollywoodian, short box beard. Stay away fray just a mustache because that will line your lips, drawing more attention to your lips which is a feminine feature.Also I suggest you concider your body language. Masculine bodies take up territory, puffed up chests, and stand as tall as they can. When standing feet are just a bit further than shoulder length apart.Hope I helped. :)
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reader, landomando +, writes (5 March 2012):
Do you have long hair? If so maybe cut it. How do you dress when you go out? Maybe go shopping for some new clothes... And what do you mean changing your features? Like plastic surgery?? Dam that is weird you get mistaken for a girl that many times. I wish we could see a pic. Thats just weird I mean when you go out do people mistake you? cause its kinda obvious to determine a girl from a guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): Be who you are and in the way that makes u happiest. Someone will love and accept you for just that.
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