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writes:So, I have a crush on one of my girlfriend's co-workers. They are indeed friends as well. When my GF first introduced us, I felt a weird vibe like she was kind of into me. Of course I was playing everything off.Nevertheless, I feel almost consumed with her friend sometimes, and find myself wishing I could be with her. She recently just got married (me and my GF attended the wedding) so trust me when I say I'm not trying to be the sleaze ball type and really ruin what seems to be a good healthy relationship between my GF and her.HOWEVER, and I can't but think what if she felt the same way? Is this something I should just totally keep to myself and write off as some sort of bizarre fantasy that cannot and should not be fulfilled?Thanks in advance...I wrote this because I love my woman I just wanted to know if there are others out there that have felt this way or been in this predicament before.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 September 2013):
 the only part that concerns me is your thoughts that she feels the same way... THAT is not normal especially since you just attended her wedding!
I get that you love your girlfriend. And having a mad crush does not change that... crushes are normal even for married or partnered people.
what's odd is that you have this hope that the crush returns the feelings...
the fact that you ask "should I keep this to myself" makes me wonder what you think would happen if you shared this and whom you would share it with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2013): Simple answer, finish your girlfriend. You are not the right man for her and to stay with her and WANT to be with another woman is unfaithful. Let another man have your girlfriend and WANT to be with HER.
Big deceit in my book and totally unfair on your girlfriend. Even if you married your girlfriend and stayed together for 50 years,if she knew the truth that you REALLY WANTED her friend,then the 50 years was a sham.
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reader, KlassyKirsty +, writes (12 September 2013):
 I will cut to the chase and say cut your losses and focus all of your energy on your current partner :) or IF lusting after other women besides your girlfriend develops into a habit, tap into your inner self and ask why before it gets out of hand.You are not alone in feeling an element of attraction towards other women but it pales in comparison with the real thing :)dont allow ur current relationship to go downhill just because of a harmless crush otherwise you will be left with nothing. Trust me you do not want the reputation of a home wrecker now this girl is married.
Good luck :) xxx
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