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writes: I really like this guy (let's call him Eric). I am 14 and he is 18, but it's not the age gap that bothers me. His older brother asked me out (and I declined) but I liked Eric before I met his older brother. I dream about him, and I went to his house today and we were messing around with other friends. The thing is, his ex girlfriend lives with him and his parents because she got kicked out of her house, and my friend told me they still meet up for casual sex. I've told him I love him before, but he thinks it's just a friend type thing, and has never said it back. I think he suspects that I like him, but he obviously doesn't return my feelings because he would have said something. I dont know exactly why I like him. He's not my type at all. I'm confused!! help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): you should get over him. what do you really love about him anyway? you are too young for him. if you get with him he will be a jail bait. Take my adivce and just move on and stick to your studies. i hoped i helped.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (6 March 2006):
 Give this bloke a wide berth, you like the idea of being with him, maybe because he is older and more experienced.
He still has sex with his ex who lives in his house, if you did get with him how would you trust him, you would be constantly worrying about this and before long it would get you down.
Dont start anything with this bloke just find one that is nearer to your age and will want the same things as you, and dont live with and have sex with there ex.
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reader, lois star +, writes (6 March 2006):
the age gap is great and a problem. at fourteen you are just starting out and emotions and feeling are all over the place.and you injoy fliting and having fun but that is all it is .be care full as this guy and is brother are only out for one thing.and still living with is x she would have been long gone if he did not care for her.so be very carefull he wants is cake and eat it .allso he injoys your attention take a other path and go and injoy your young life and be happy from lois
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): Stay away - far, far, away. This age gap definitely SHOULD bother you. In fact, it may explain why you're attracted to this guy who is otherwise 'not your type' at all.
The problem with big age gaps at this time of life is that both of you are ageing in leaps and bounds - the differences between a 34 year-old and a 38 year-old aren't even noticeable, but between 14 and 18 is like different planets. His age will always be looming there between you, giving an illusion of authority and wisdom to everything he does, no matter how immature or stupid - and he will do immature and stupid things, an 18 year old boy is designed for that.
Your best bet is to avoid him for a little while and hang out with some boys closer to your own age, at least you'll be on equal footing with them.
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