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writes:I'm in relationship with a married guy for five years, but now he went back to his wife with the excuse that he got a new job in the county the wife is and now they live together, he want our relationship to continue and promised me that he is trying to get another job in a different county so that we can be together again, at the moment I'm studying and he is paying for everything. He is in late fifties and im ealy thities. I love him very much and he love me. Should I wait for him or should get on with my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Get out of this relationship immediately. It will be hard at first, but trust me, it is the right thing for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is my answer from the stock:
I have a newly born baby myself.I shudder to think What would happen if my husband got caught on to a situation like this.If you do shoplifting you are penalized.If you steal from a home you are penalized.I don't understand how come there are no laws to penalize women who steal other people's husbands.
If a sparrow builds a nest anywhere in the house we are not supposed to disrupt it in India.Its considered a sin.If people give so much respect to the sparrow's nest how much respect should we be giving to another woman's nest.She would have built her nest with the same loving care right.
If a married man tempts you or you get tempted by a married man take a step back.Envision his wife who would be eagerly waiting for her husband.Envision their kids who will eagerly be waiting for their dads.I agree men are equally to blame.But as women,shouldn't we be more considerate to that poor wife?
Next time a married man shows interest in you,tell him his wife must be looking else where as well.See the change in his face.He would want his wife to be pure.
For all the women who are currently having an affair with a married man,"If he can cheat on her,he will definitely cheat on you".Its just a matter of time before he loses interest in your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): He's paying for your school? Go for it! Hey, you're taking advantage of Him!!!!Hooray for once!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): I agree with Teacake, too many woman out there willing to be used by married men but also take responsability for your own actions as you were cheating with a married man knowing he had a wife that makes you as low and sleazy as he was, he went back to his wife because he feels more for her than you, you were just a cheap thrill, but then again you maybe knew this, and as others say you knew what you were doing to his wife, of course he will pay for you its his way of getting what he wants, SEX without having to trail the highway looking for it and paying that way. Have some respect if not for yourself then at least for his poor poor wife,woman like you know what you are doing and don't really give a damm about other peoples feelings, better hope she doen't find out about you or you may have a lot more than this to deal with and rightly so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Dear Poster
I am going to ask you to use your imagination.
Try and think, visualize yourself married to a man ten years from now and then you discover this guy has an affair with somebody younger and is supporting her; how will you feel?
I suggest you don't waste your time and life waiting for his guy; if after five years he is not divorced from his wife, chances are he never will; he is stringing you along. Please don't allow him to keep you hanging around waiting for him; you should get out there and find somebody who is available; somebody that can be there for you only; stop sharing a man with somebody else; let him be!
Yes, you might love him, but love is not enough; and in this instance, he is married; he wasted 5 years of our live; fooling you, making you believe you are the one; yet...where is he now? Oh, don't believe the story of work; no, stop believing his excuses and stop justifying his actions; deep inside you know this is wrong and that he is messing you around.
I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but I don't want you to waste anymore time in your life. I suggest you move forward with your life. You don't want to be alone forever and surely don't want to share someone forever.
Be smart and do what is right for your future; let go of this man; tell him that he can contact you once he has his divorce papers, if you are still available you can talk, until then you are free to mingle and should you meet the perfect partner you are moving on.
Be strong; I wish you happiness and am sending you lots of smiles.
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I just can't find it in me to feel bad for a woman who gets involved with a married man unless you didn't know that from the start.
Men are dogs because there are too many women out there interfering and trying to steal a man from the other woman. Women are equally responsible for men who find it so easy to cheat.
Sounds like he loves himself more than either of you two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): He has went back to his wife after 5 years, says it all, if you want to be second best all the time then just wait around and thats what you will be, his bit on the side, get yourself a single man and not a sugar daddy.
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