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writes: I've been in love with my teacher for over a year. sometimes we spend the break together talking and when we meet (in corridors) he always talks to me but when i m close to him i feel the urge to kiss him but i resist it. I' ve finished school but i nearly go every day to school to see him and he helps me for my o levels. what can i do shall i tell him that i love him, by d way i think he is about 35-40 and i'm nearly 16.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): you should tell him, i told my teacher it went pretty well, just say uv got mixed emotions atm or sumat xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): What is the Age of Consent laws where you live? If they are 16, and if you are not his student, then I don't see a problem with dating. You are not a little kid but a young woman.
However, it would be a little odd to date your own teacher!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): Do you love him enough risk destroying his life?
That could be a consequence for him if he is ever suspected of having an improper relationship with you.
Crushes are powerful things, but they are not love. You are experiencing what nearly every teenager goes through in their school life. Believe me, in 5 or 10 years or so, you'll find it pretty funny (and proberly quite disgusting) that you had these feelings and went to the trouble to write this message. Trust me, and the other answers on here; move on.
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reader, nadine hillside +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
It would be a diasater if you told him how you felt. If you told him how you felt and he felt the same then you started going out it would mean problem aftr problem after problem. For one thing the age gap is a cause for concern and i don't think that your mum, dad and the rest of the family will be very happy at the fact their daughter is going out with a man aged between 35-40 and what makes it worse is he is your teacher.
Hope everything works out. Good luck.
Nadine
xXx xxx
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 The age gap is a problem. And the teacher-pupil relationship is a problem.....I also think you are reading to much into hes professional behaviour. And as has been said before I think you are seeing an agenda were this is none.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (15 April 2006):
 If he read what you had wrote he would be horrified, he is a good teacher who`s only mistake is to be over friendly with you.
He wants you to get good grades he does not want a relationship with you, and if he ever did have one he would be sacked.
You are old enough to know that teacher pupil relationships are not on and you must realise this is infatuation and not a relationship that will ever be one in the true sense of the word.
Go find a bloke of your own age and one that does not risk being sacked from a proffession he is good at and loves for the unwanted attention of a teenage girl.
Sorry but this is the real world harsh as it is and my words are not meant to hurt you, they are meant to wake you up to reality, that is unless he has done something to make you know he is interested like kissing you.
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reader, tux  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 I agree with the previous responders. I would tell you to let it go.. It most likely won't work and can wind up getting him and yourself in trouble down the line. And as for your update, I am having trouble finding anything in what you added that would change the thinking. To me it looks like, you are just trying to justify going for him because it doesn't add much for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsry but i left out an imp point(siad it in short). me and my best friend go to school nearly every day and we make lessons which are important. he teaches us maltese and we tell him to make us a lesson he always tells us if we have a problem in the subject to tell him and he's happy to give us the lesson. now there are the holidays at school and i feel really down cos i miss him so mutch it s been only 2 days since i last talked to him and i cant imagine spending more time without even see him tks 4 ur advice
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi,
I agree with Sourpio on this one. You can both still get into trouble even though he's not your teacher any more. And there is the small matter of a 19-24 year age Gap!!!
I think you'd be better off with someone your own age as getting together with Teachers hardly EVER works out. You'll probably just end up getting hurt and I don't think anyone wants that to happen to you.
Good Luck, All The Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2006): No. This is a bad idea because 1) he's probably not interested in dating someone so much younger than him and 2) even though he is no longer technically your teacher, this may still endanger his job if it gets around. Even if the school only keeps a mandate for relationships between current-students and teachers, he may be "grey-listed" unofficially if people think he is solliciting school-aged girls. This will make both his and your lives much more difficult, so curb these feelings as best as you can. Maybe you can find someone else to help you study? Spending a little more time away from him will probably make the feelings die down.
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