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anonymous
writes:I am in love with my sons married teacher. she is a very beautiful and kind person. she knows i am gay. i felt sparks between, we were getting closer by day, then when i asked her out for coffee, don't know what happened . she told me in a note that we need to keep a professional relationship, i never got a chance to tell her how i feel. she read my heart and mind even before i could open my mouth. I care and love her every much I respect her decision , and keeping my distance but seeing her everyday is becoming so very hurtful. Going crazy think what to do so that things can be better for all of us. What should i do?
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 You're welcome. Obviously it's much more difficult if he's young as you can't have him walk into school alone etc. Try and sit tight-the school year will be over soon!All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ aunty honest my comment wasn't for you. i appricate your feed back . wanted say thank you. my son is very young by the way.
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reader, Aunty Honest +, writes (13 March 2011):
I understand you're trying to keep your distance, but (obviously I don't know age of your son/how much you HAVE to see her) I just meant as much as possible, so you can avoid even looking at her when possible! I didn't mean you weren't trying that already.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea surely maybe you didn't read the part i wrote i am keeping my distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): Don't you feel even the slightest tiny bit of guilt about stressing all because you can't find the solution to destroying a marriage?! Why surely you're joking right?!
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reader, Aunty Honest +, writes (12 March 2011):
As hard as it is, you have to walk away from this one. She's asked you to step back because of her career. Proffessionally, she could be destroyed by being involved with a students teacher, and while it's painful, you have to respect that especially because you care about her so deeply.Throw in her marriage into the equation and you're left with a bit of a mess. Secondly, she's your son's teacher. And I think if you're honest with yourself you know that that would be incredibly difficult for your son, however old he is. A teacher getting involved with a parent would be embarassing and confusing and would cause alot of problems for everyone involved. Unfortunately to protect the woman and son you love, you're gonna have to take a bullet here, because the kindest thing for both of them, is to let it lie. Find ways to keep your distance with her at the school, before you know it it'll be the end of the academic year. Try and do things to boost your confidence, new hair, a change in routine, getting out and meeting people. If you've never spent much time alone with this woman, you may have idealised her, and it could be that she wouldn't have met your expectations. Go out and talk to women who aren't off limits, take things slowly and be patient. Sadly, the only way to deal with this one is to wait it out.
Hope you're not hurting for too long.
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