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*hampilyn
writes:I'm in love with my professor. That first of all is the fact. I am now a graduating student in college, and this semester, he is not my teacher anymore. He was my teacher last semester, and I didn't feel this way. We only smile at each other when we pass by each other around the campus. Anyway, Last wednesday, I was walking to the theology department, and suddenly, he was behind me and said, hi! and mentioned my name, then he asked me how are you? and who's your prof. well, strictly professional I guess, though he is smiling all the while. The next week, I've been stalking him non-stop. This Monday, I've seen him and him, I, in their department. then outside their building I even approached him. he said how are you? then of course I answered, I'm fine. then I asked if he has a class which actually I already know because I checked his schedule in the department, and he answered yes, and I asked where? he answered the location too. after awhile, perhaps he's been wondering why I'm walking with him, he asked me "anything I can help you with?" and I just smiled and said "nothing". then I said "can I ask a question", and he answered "sure" so I asked "how old are you?" and he answered "guess" and I said "27?", he replied with "you're praising me too much" so I said "39?" and finally he answered "I'm 33". then he smiled and I smiled then h left because he has a class to teach, and stupidly, I followed him. he went to the toilet, and I sat at the benches outside that toilet, and he saw me looking at him when he faced the mirror, and he just smiled at me. then after his class, I was outside his classroom, and again he just smiled at me. Then a bit later, after 4 hours, accidentally, I was with my friends outside the coffee shop, and we saw him heading there, and all the time he was looking at me, so when I finally met his gaze, he smiled at me. the next day, I went to stalk him again, and I was outside his classroom, talking to a friend who is in his class, as he entered the school building I head out, with another friend. HE was looking at his notes, and then looked at me and said hi! and mentioned my name.the next day, I passed by him while he was heading to his class, and again, he said hi! and mentioned my name.the next day, I was trying not to stalk him again, it was already 6 pm, the time his other class ends, and mine from another class. while walking, we again saw each other. it was dark and he looked at me, as if recognizing if it was me, so i said hi! and he said Hi back.Friday, I tried to say hi again, but a friend called me through cell phone, and I just noticed he passed by already, though I think he saw me, because he just moved his gaze from me as I looked at him. Then because he has this 10 minute break and he sometimes looks down from his class at the third floor, so I stood in the school garden, where lots of activities for students was taking place, and he was looking at my direction (with my friend) and I was looking at him, for about a few minutes. It was I who moved and sat at the benches where he couldn't see me. then after his class, we pass by each other (which I carefully planned of course) and he waved at me and smiled. he seemed enthusiastic. Then at night around 7 pm, I was in their building. I was talking with the security, who would be one of my informers about my crush professor, and then some faculty members went down and said, the rest would follow shortly. then I saw him with 3 of his other friends, and he said hi to me again, although one of his friends is my current teacher. And he even turned back to say goodbye. The security told me that that professor always smiles and says hi, but not the way he did to me, but he doesn't really know because I'm a girl and men tends to act/ greet differently with opposite sex.From these, does anyone think that my professor might like me? for I surely do like him. it is already obvious that I like him, since he is smart enough to figure that I've been stalking him, and the give-away age question.....any advice? what should I do? all I could think about is him. I'm already 20, it's just 13 years right? is there a connection between us? is there a thing between us? or the only thing between us is NOTHING? please give me some advice. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): Since you're not in his class anymore you can try & start a convo by asking him for his opinions on your other classes; i.e. What mistakes/good points you made in his class that would help you in your new class? Make direct eye contact with him & smile, show interest & boost his ego. That's my advice if you really want to chase this, but I must warn you, this is a dangerous ground to walk. It honestly seems built in your head; it does not seem he's interested & is just being nice to you like he would to everyone. You also need to make sure your school allows dating between students & prof. Because most forbid it even if you're not in that particular profs class. You also have to be ready for rejection because that seems very likely in this case. Give it a go at your own risk, that's my advice & good luck hon.
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reader, champilyn +, writes (21 November 2009):
champilyn is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the replies.... so it's possible that I'm one of his student crush? So there is even a glimpse of hope that he is attracted to me? What should I do?
thank you for the replies BTW. I feel like I really do am building this in my head. I'm reading between the lines, which probably isn't there, but I want it to be there.... I hope to receive more advices..... and how do I start a conversation with him? I'm not in his class anymore... How should I do it? what questions can I ask? how should I start the conversation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Sorry young lady, but you're building this all in your head. He says hi, big deal, that's just a regular polite everday occurrence - do you know how rude it would be for him to ignore you/someone he knows? He is probably flattered by your interest, & you're probably not his first student crush but that's about it. Sorry hun, I'm not trying to be mean but merely trying to clear you're young racing over active mind, I was there too years ago :)
Go find guys on your campus who really can date you, & are really interested in you! And then laugh about your professor crush in a few years.
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reader, Jim01  +, writes (20 November 2009):
hey, wild idea here. Just gonna go ahead and throw it out there. Try saying something more than 'Hi'. How about a nice ice breaker? Ask him what he is currently teaching his students? Ask him what he does outside of work with out seeming creepy. BUT, stop waiting for him when he goes to the bathroom. That might be a little weird for him.I don't think the age difference is to big of deal? But is legally allowed to date a student anyway? I don't know what the rules are over there?
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