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writes: Agh, where to start? I went out with this boy for 6 months. I was in a band with him and we had a VERY nasty split. We both said we loved each other, but his mum told mine that he didn't really love me and he admitted to it. We split and "hated" each other. Two months ago, just before my band split, we had someone join and within a week I started going out with him and the band soon split. I have now been going out with this boy for a month and a half. A few days ago I asked my ex to return some of my things and he dropped round with them. We hung out for a bit and he admitted to having feelings for me still. We ended up kissing but I told him I was unable to dump my b/f. He said he would have to deal with that but he was just happy being that intimate with me again. Today I had a band practise with both of them. I'm in love with my new boyfriend and am really happy, but my ex was my first love and I will never stop having some sort of feelings towards him. He broke my heart, so I tried to move on and fell in love with my new boyfriend. Any ideas on what I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey im the person who wrote this question. My new boyfriend has said he is in love with me and alos said this before i admitted that i had fallen for him too. I dont think my new boyfriend is worth giving up but i dnt seem to be able to resist my ex. Also my ex has confided in me that he is suicidally depressed and has attempted to take his life before so i know he is serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): No matter what causes the break up, you will always have feelings for your first love.anyone will tell you that.the question here is what you do about them.
You say that you broke up because of his what mum said?If he agreed then he either didn't love you or was too much of a "mummys boy" to go against her.either way shows he didn't love you enough.
Now you are with someone new..you say you are in love with him..how does your bf feel?after only a month and a half he may be hesitant to really commit his feelings fully especially as how now your ex is on the scene again.He may want to give you all but afraid to let himself admit it if the chances are you are going to dump him for your ex!!
Only you can decide if your ex is worth giving up your current bf for but remember you broke up for a reason..is that reason still there?what will happen if his mum finds out?will she try to break you up again?will he let her?
think carefully you could be giving up on a wonderful boyfriend for someone who,quite frankly,sounds like all he wants is someone to sleep with.
i wish you the strength and wisdom to make your choice.
good luck xx
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