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writes: Any psychics? Please tell me: does he fancy me?I fancy this instructor who works at the local gym. Whenever I go there, he always chats to me for about an hour on a one to one about all kinds of stuff, he always asks me to go in when he's working, he gives me compliments and also walked me to my car the once. But does he fancy me? I thought he really fancied me but then when my friend told him I like him, he said he knew I liked him and did not want to 'lead me on'. I'm so confused, I really got 'that feeling' that he fancied me. Could he have changed his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 July 2006):
I can see how you confused. His actions towards you are a pretty big indicator that he likes you...but when considering what your friend said, it might just mean that he is a over friendly, over flirty type of person.
Unfortunatly this may be true and you will find alot of people like that in the sales industry- its part of a sales person nature to be overly friendly as it keeps the customer coming back. Having said that he is probably just a marjor flirt or maybe even a 'player' as the person above me suggested.
If you want to be sure that he was just being friiendly and didn't mean to lead you on, then the best thing to do is ask him straight out face to face. Just say, 'I got the feeling that you like me and bla bla and I was wondering if i was reading to much into your actions', or something along those lines.
I know this must feel like a bit of a letdown to you, but just remember that there is plenty of other guys out there I bet checking you out and just dying to speak to you! So don't give up. Keep moving and you will find somoene new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): I can understand why you confused his attentiveness and friendship for something more, dear. Sometimes well meaning, outgoing people act very nicely to others and their actions are mistaken for something more. And then there are people who sometimes say things and do things in the moment and then they change their minds when approached and asked by others. So you are right, one can't say why he did this and I get the feeling you are thinking he 'may have toyed with you." I think if you were going to ask him why he said this to your friend , you would get the same answer. So I would simply move and perhaps understand this fellow could be a 'player'. Never expect anything from a potential love interest until they give a more 'solid, concrete' indication of their interest levels rather than simply giving compliments, talking to you and walking you to your car. One of the best indicators will be is when a guy officially asks you out on a date. And even then, there are still no guaruntees of anything getting started between two people. In the meantime, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Be friendly, be nice..just don't expect anything more from him. .
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