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writes:I am 16 years old and have been in love with this teacher for about 2 and a half years now :/I first met her when I was 13 and I didn’t like her very much at all. Then she became my teacher. In that term I realised that I didn’t hate her but instead I desperately needed her to like me. I was always loud in class so she would notice me but I was the top student so that happened anyway. Slowly I learnt more and more about her and began to like her as a person. We chatted a couple of times after class and then on an excursion one day she came and sat and talked with me. We eventually became friends. The next year she was my teacher again and I was really nervous about that. I was 14 and I began to spend lots of time with her. We always had such funny conversations. I had some after school commitments and when I finished, I used to wait for my mum in her office and we would talk about how the day had gone, what was planned for the weekend etc. During this time I realised that she was always on my mind and I missed her terribly when she wasn’t there. We went on like this for a while even when she wasn’t my teacher we still remained close. I met her husband some time during that year and had no idea how to react. Over time I began to realise how attractive she was and I’m sure she’s noticed my staring on more than one occasion. She has made the odd comment now and again about being suspicious of me but she always has a smirk on her face when she says it and I don’t know what to make of it :S Sometimes when I asked nicely enough she would get me out of my class and she would always be there to talk to when I felt sad.I wanted to do something nice for her so I bought her a birthday present (card and her favourite chocolate). She seemed really touched that I remembered and then told me that she was pregnant. I was genuinely excited for her but I died a little inside. I gave her a hug and felt a bit better (of course) and I then found out that she told me before she told any of the other teachers. I still have no idea what to make of that. I was devastated that I would be going away for a while and not seeing her but she emailed me while I was away.She has since had her baby and I visited her with a friend. She is currently on maternity leave for the term but I cannot wait for her to come back! She sent me a birthday present during the holidays and she seems to like me at least as a friend but I still have no idea what to do!She is so smart, some people don’t think that she’s overly pretty but I think she’s gorgeous (blonde hair, green eyes, glasses, great body), she’s so nice and she’s got a great sense of humour. I do day dream about her a fair bit (I feel like such a creep when I say that) and when I’m with her I sort of avoid looking at her but when I do it’s the most amazing thing in the world. I think I could be bisexual because I like guys but I have liked other girls (obviously not to the same degree)Does anyone have any ideas/advice/past experience that they can share with me? I feel so sick about it and it actually hurts…
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): Im currently experiencing this type of thing too, im 15 now and also female!. it has been happening for about a year, and just last week i finally had the guts to tell her how i feel about her. i wrote her a letter instead of physically telling her, but i was alone with her when she read it. Obviously because she is 11 years older than me and she is my teacher, she said nothing can happen between us, unfortunately :( at first, i felt like i had done the wrong thing in telling her, because we didnt speak at all the day after..but a few days passed and everything went back to normal and i even feel closer to her now! So im very glad i told her :) hope things work out for you!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): I was in the same position at the same age :) I had a crush on my PE teacher and it started off like how yours did :) It lasted for 2 years....But think about these things, and think about them seriuosly:1) She's married and has a baby. Would you want to destroy her happy life?2) You'll probably prefer her remembering you as her best friend, not a bisexual student who accidentaly fell in love.Forget your feelings, but you can still be her best friend :)
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reader, shiori  +, writes (18 March 2011):
tell her. it obvious that she must have some feelings for you. she might be acting that she loves her husband and when she really likes you. take a risk. you will never know the truth unless you take a risk. and if it risks your reltionship then so what. it'll hurt even more to keep it inside and i am saying that from future experiencce
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs stupid as I may seem from this experience, I am aware of the consequences she could face if she reciprocates (not that I expect her to) and equally aware of the humiliation I will face if rejected. I have no intentions of saying anything to her (at least not now).
I do think that we could be friends after I finish school and that's sort of where I am headed because at the end of the day, it's not realistic to want more and I do care about her as a friend.
I'm just stuck on what to do about everything now.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Date within your own age group!
Your infatuation can only lead to heartbreak and embarrassment if your advances are rejected.
However, if she does accept your affections and reciprocates, she could very well face termination of employment, loss of her teaching credentials, and possible imprisonment! Keeping that in mind, do you really think this is a path you want to pursue?
Remember, infatuations are always short lived!
As far as being bisexual, give it time. You WILL sort it out eventually!
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