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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I'm going to make this as short as I possibly can!! About 4 years ago I had a boyfriend. MY boyfriend had a friend who Was really cool. Long story short, after me and my boyfriend had broken up me and his friend became close. We were only best friends even though we liked each other because He's my ex's friend, and he was a PLAYER! One of the worst I'd ever seen !! So even though I liked him, dating wasn't an option. Anyway he soon moved away and got his phone number changed.Here we are in the present and He surprises me with a phone call saying he has moved back and would like for us to be reacquainted. Off the bat I realized something was different about him this time. He was sweeter, kinder, softer, more caring and affectionate towards me. it brought back old feelings and I realize I really liked him ( but I didn't tell him that).After a while of talking we were as close as we used to be but he soon told me that, ever sense he moved away he thought about me all the time. He asked my ex for my number countless times but he never gave it to him. I was sure that this was one of his games, as I had mentioned before he was a PLAYER!!I told him I didn't want to go there with him because of his ways and he told me, Yea youre right I was a player but the way our relationship is I would never cheat on you cause id risk losing you as a friend too, and hed do anything to prove to me I would be all his.So we are still friends but he calls me every morning and night, we text throughout the say and when im around him he allows me to go through his phone, and even when hess around his friends (when im there) hes always so amazing! He tells me im his dream girl and the woman he wants to marry and he wouldn't do anything to mess that up. ONe time we got in a fight and he called me 4 times in a row and texted me right afterward and he told me Ive never done that before ( which is true because we use to be super close I know how he treated females) and that he doesn't know what im doing to him. He went out of town for the summer and although hes moved back to town hes still a while away so I asked him to write me a letter, which he agreed to do. Its been a while since he agreed to do it and I asked him recently if it was done and he said no he hasn't written it or anything. I was upset about it because it been a minute and he still hasn't even written it. Soo, he promised hed do it when he got the chance, I asked him again and he said its not written.I want to be that girl because I loved him for so long and even his family says he treats me different, Is this just apart of his game?If he "loves" me like he says he does, why cant he take the time out of his non busy day to write and send me a simple letter he promised to do ?Also he says that if I agree to date him, he wouldn't want to make it completely official now because he doesn't want to mess anything up, he wants to be best best friends before we do anything serious and that he wants to do it the "right" way with me because hes never tried it like this before. He's not going to tell me who I can see, date, or anything and he expects the same from me but to know at the end of the day that IM his and he's mine.. What does he mean by that ?He knows Im still a virgin and he hasn't even asked for any sexual favors so I told him upfront hes not getting any .'IM so confused on where I stand with him and what exactly does he want from me. And if he doesn't want to be together, right now what are we doing? Why is he treating me LIke im his one and only ?Help My head is spinning and I donot want to get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): it sounds like he's in it for the thrill of the chase like most players!
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