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writes:Im 14 and shes 23. We are not related in any way. She is married to my cousin, and they have two kids. We have been talking a lot and spending a lot of time together and I think i fell in love with her. I know I should accept that this love isnt going anywhere and i should forget about her but i cant. I told her how I feel and she dosent have a problem with it and i think she feels the same way about me. Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): Maybe she likes you like family and nothing more. If she is inlove with you which I doubt, this would be utterly wrong. You are a child compared to her and as someone else mentioned, she could definitely go to jail.Secrets like that are not secrtes for long, try to spend more time with other girls your own age. I know how you feel, and falling inlove with someone and then trying to forget them is hard but you dont' have a choice here, this is totally against the law. Spend less time with her and find some hubby and just keep yourself occupied with other stuff. I wish you all the best and may you find happiness with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): You say "i think she feels the same way about me." She may love you very much as a family member and feel very close to you, but she's not "in love" with you the way you are with her. I don't think a woman her age would go for someone your age. My suggestion would be to stop spending time with her for a while. Hang out with other friends, try to take up hobbies you did before you developed your crush and keep her out of your head. The feelings will die down if you have some other passion to replace them.
I know from experience this is extremely difficult to accept, and that you probably don't want to do anything but be with her. If you find yourself missing her, remind yourself that nothing could ever happen between you two. It would even be illegal - would you want to get her in trouble with the law? It's okay to still love her, just try to steer your love in a different direction. Learn to love her as family. Good luck.
--Rael, 16
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