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writes:I have become more attached to my cousins over these past couple years. We see each other 3-4 times a year and over this past summer we saw each other a lot more than we usually do. We talk to each other everyday on the phone as much as we can and I have come to like her a lot. Near the end of the summer i started to feel like i was falling in love with her. if we didn't talk then i would start to miss her so much that i would get depressed.I was confused because she's my cousin. and i thought it was wrong but i dont know what to think now. I'm afraid if i tell her how i feel that she won't talk to me at all. the last time she left back home i cried terribly for the 1st time everynight for a week.Should i tell her how i feel? im just afraid that she'll think i'm a freak and she won't talk to me. i dont want to ruin the great relationship that we have as cousins. could someone please give me advice on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): i dont see the problem, i dont look and think 'thats discusting shes family' i think of it like 'thats ur moms/dad's brother/sister's don/daughter. what is so bad about being in love with yur mums sisters kid
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): hi mate, you must be in difficult situation now. We actually have the same situation, the difference is we both know that we are in love and we do things like in normal relationships. Actually searching the Bible tells us whom to marry or not to marry. Follow your heart. We only live once, don't live your life full of "pagsisisi" (tagalog term)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI will try to change my feelings into something else as hard as it is for me.
thanks for the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Being your cousin, the relationship you have with her should not get intimate. But, its natural to feel attracted to all girls even cousins.I suggest that you should try and mould your feelings into something else - it doesn't have to be untrue to what you feel for her, you just have to look at it in a different way.So.. your present love for her ------ to extreme liking and friendship.You can do it!Telling her your feelings to an extent will also help to relieve you of your problem. Tell her things like 'you are so great!' or 'Coolest friend/ cousin in the world'. Saying these things will help even you to feel differently about her, but in a positive way.If you decide to tell her everything, I don't think she will consider you weird atall, though around anyone who has just admitted to liking you she may feel awkward around you.It is illegal to become physically involved in a relationship between cousins. Sorry, but thats the plain truth of it. One of the only solutions I can see for your problem is a change in your thinking. If you continue to feel strongly for her in this way it can cause you alot of pain. The trick is then to feel strongly for her in a different way.Everything you need to do to solve this problem of yours you are capable of. Take time to consider your options and I'm sure you'll come to a benefitial solution.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Considering she is your cousin my advice is to move on and keep the relationship friendly.
Good Luck!
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