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writes: For just over 4 years now I have been in love with my brother's girlfriend and have no idea of what to do. I know that she feels the same way about me because two years and half ago she confessed her feelings to me and for six months we were seeing each other. My brother and family found out and I stayed away from her for two years although that has made no difference at all because I met her again last month and all my feelings for her and hers for mine came rushing back like a tidal wave. I thought about her every day over them two years and I really want her but I know it is wrong. They have been together for four and a half years. He is a selfish and voilent person who would pay for the latest computer rather than nappies and who even once headbutted her. Last year he left her with three kids and pregnant with another for who he called his first love. When they broke up my mum told her that she can go for anyone else but not me and my mum told me that I can't go for her. I was going to wait a few months to ask my brother if he'd cope with me asking her out but although she told me that that she would never have him back because he cheated on her a week before hand they were back together after just two weeks. She only just told me on Tuesday that if my family let us be together she would be with me.I am deeply in love with her and I know I won't be strong enough to stop something happening again. I really want to be with her but with my family I might aswell ask for a million pound. I just don't know what to do.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Are you financially strong and independent?
If you are financially strong, you can take her and leave your family .
If you are still not financially independent, best is to shelf your plans for the time being.
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reader, Merisier  +, writes (19 April 2008):
Well in my opinion I don't think you should be with her. She is like a sister to you she has 4 kids now and they are all ur nephews or nieces. I can understand a lithe if she didn't have any kids with brother like I said just a litle but she does. Let her find someone else and you too, then you both will move on.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 I think the kids should be put first. Regardless of everything, you are their uncle. not their step-dad. If you did get with their mum, what would that make their dad? their step-uncle? it would be really bizarre for them to understand and I dont think its worth it when there are hundreds of thousands of people in the world you could fall in love with.
I dont think she is going to leave him. If she really was, she would've done it by now. Lord knows she's had plenty of reasons to leave but hasnt which tells me she wants to be with him and you cant make her do something she doesnt want to do. Her actions speak louder than her words.
I think the whole situation is a messy one and one that you would be happier well away from. It may not feel like it now but it would be for the best and you'll be glad when you do meet someone who your brothers girlfriend doesnt even compare to in your eyes.
take care
Brooke
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reader, icecold  +, writes (18 April 2008):
dude look at this realisticly ur brother isnt selfish u r ur mad at him cuz he headbutted her by accedent dude ive acedentally did that but i cherish my g-f very very much and i felt horrible for doing it. as for what u should do go with the flow theve been together for 4 years for a reason its not like theve just held together for no reason im sure u think u love her but do u know for sure and as for heer confessing her feelings for u she was just confused
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