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writes:Im 21, my brother is 23 an his gf is 23. They have been together for almost 2 years now. We have always been close friends, she is so caring, nuturing, an She is so beautiful, smart, sweet and overal a very nice person. He treats her like shit, he cheats on her behind her back, he swears at her. Ect.. I have always found her very attractive. Everytime we see eachother she is very flirty with me, its gotten so bad i almost kissed her a few nights ago. We were both glancing at eachother from across the table an it took every bit of control i had no to take her hand and tell her i love her. I cant handle being around her anymore, it hurts so bad not being able to tell her. Is it wrong of me to completly cut all contact with her? What should i do? I know what love an lust is, an this is deff. love....
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Are you ready to lose your brother for this girl?
Plus you must think to yourself if shes flirting with you behind your brothers back who else is she flirting with...if you got with her could you ever trust her?
Id say stay clear as this is your brothers girlfriend not yours!
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reader, busy04 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Okay...
I can understand how you feel, it must be very, very hard to watch her being treated like this especially by your brother, who is also her boyfriend.
But that fact to me, is what you need to focus on: she is your brothers girlfriend. He may treat her wrong, and do all those things but ultimately the choice to stay with him is hers & hers alone. She has to realize on her own that she should not have to subject herself to that type of relationship.
I don't think that it very wise for you at this point to have continual contact with her, I'm not saying to shut off completely, but try to put some distance between you two. Talk to her first, if you can handle it. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs you for anything, but try not to get too involved. It's not really wise to interfere with your brothers relationship.
You can also talk to your brother, if you can. Not in rude way (though I'm sure it may be hard to keep control of your feelings),but just let him know that you notice the way he goes about his relationships & it's not a good example for you. You don't even have to go into specifics, just tell him that you watch & learn from him and what you're seeing isn't cool, etc. Things like that & I'm pretty sure he may take that type of talk into consideration.
I hope I helped out a little, and if I did not, then I'm sure the other aunts and uncles can be of better service.
I wish you the best!
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