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writes:Help! I am falling in love with my best friends 23yr old daughter. My best friend is female. Her daughter and I are really close. I am WAY older than her daughter, but I am falling in love with her. We sometimes hold hands or put our arms around eachother. She puts her head on her shoulder. We talk all the time. She knows I want her. Because of her and I being so close, I have fallin in love with her. If she was older or if I was younger it would be a perfect match. It hurts SO BAD not being able to be with her. I hurts so much to see her with other guys. I need help.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Are you married or partnered?
Does your friend know how you feel about her daughter?
If you are 35 and the daughter is 23 that gap is not too bad. When my hubby was 23 I was 36.
The issue is your friend may not be happy with you dating her daughter. are you willing to risk losing your friend?
You say she knows you want her… how does she know? Have you told her? If so what did she say or do? She may think of you as her mom’s dear friend and nothing more… you may have a very one-sided crush here…
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): are U still married? I think it's weird to search for an adventure with a young women and to risk your marriage.If you are not married or no more married and if U are in no relationship, then just go on as far as it goes. 200 years from now, the usual age difference between women and men was around 20 years, it worked for ages, why shouldn't it work now?Please ask the girl, if she is really interested in you, too and ask her to tell you honestly, what kind of feelings she has for you. Please talk about all consequences (friends are either too young or too old for any of you two) and talk about how you will communicate your relationship to the environment and talk about how you feel in case somebody refuses to believe, it is real love between you two.I just fell in love with a former girl friend from my daughter, they were together 7 years ago and the girl is 23 now. I never was looking for another relationship, the one with my wife, that lasted 27 years now, was the only one I ever had and we separated a few years ago. I never was looking for any girl, specially not for a very young one, but things happen and I can tell you, it is a very great feeling. I am not looking for sex, I really and honestly love her and I am willing to give up the best I have: my freedom and my independance.If you can tell the sams and be aware of all consequences: GO ON. I am including you two in my prayers.warmest regardsBruno
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