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writes:Hi , well here's my situation ...I'm 14 years old, and I'm completely in love with a 24 year old. Believe it or not, I know its not an infatuation. If you, yourself, are in love- then you KNOW you are in love, you don't question it.Now, this is the worse part- he is my boyfriends uncle, that's how i know him. But, I don't really love the boy I'm with now, it's just a fling. The only reason I'm hanging on to this relationship is because i get to see the man i AM in love with a whole lot more, which i know is totally wrong.I can tell by the way he looks at me that he feels it too! I told my cousin that i'm really close with my situation, but no one seems to get it. This man is all i could ever dream about, and so much more. He is perfect, even if i tried- i can't find a single flaw! But, like i'm sure any woman knows, a man (especially with his personality), is never going to tell a 14 year old girl that he loves her, or even likes her. This man is extremely popular with the ladies, and the chemistry between us seems almost unreal .. I love being with him, or even near him -- i just feel complete.This has been going on for almost a year and i don't feel like i will ever be happy if i'm not with him.He always touches my hand when we are sitting near each other, and he even asks my boyfriend and i to come to his house sometimes, then when we get there he'll whisper to me that he just wanted to see me.. It is a lot more realistic then it seems. Will it ever work?need advice desperately!
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reader, mint  +, writes (26 April 2009):
 i think that you should go round to you bf's uncles house and tell him your true feelings and he feels the same then dump your bf and make a go with him...........and if he doesnt i tink yuu should still dump your bf and go out there and look for someone else!
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reader, Overture to Don Giovanni +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Maybe when you turn 18 it'll work, but by the time you turn 18, he'll probably be married, or have a girlfriend.
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reader, iluvsox +, writes (26 April 2009):
All I can really say is that you're 14 years old. You have so much of life that you still have to live, and that you are probably just really infatuated with him. Love is something that doesn't just happen, you have to be in a real serious relationship with someone, and the love has to be grown, it just doesn't magically appear.
From what it seems like, he seems like a nice guy who enjoys your company. I don't mean to be a downer, but you really need to grow up some more before you ever consider someone like that.
As far as him "not having any character flaws- not one", you have to know that can't be true. No one ever is perfect in their right mind or in others. He may seem perfect, but no matter what you ever think, he'll never be perfect. I'm willing to bet all I have that you dont know him as well as "someone in love" should and would. Do you know how he would act in every situation? Do you know all his likes and dislikes? Do you know his views on marriage, politics, sex, and everything else that you should just know when you're "in love"?
Also, is it fair for you to just date some guy when you don't really care for him? I find that the worst part of it all. This kid probably likes you a lot and you're just using him, which isn't fair at all.
Like I said, you're still young, live your life. If this guy is still for you down the road (After you've experienced more of your life) then good for you, but don't throw away your life for someone you think you love (especially at the tender age of 14)
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