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*eil61
writes:hi I'm in love with my best friend and I think she knows about it. i know she doesn't feel the same way so I'm wondering if anybody is in the same situation as her and how they would like the person in love to act thanks
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reader, neil61 +, writes (24 January 2010):
neil61 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlast night me and her had this amazing conversation but I'm gonna follow your advice and I'm blocking her msn, and I'm gonna see her as little as possible which could be hard but il do my best thanks guys :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2010):
She's not trying to play you.
As a girl, I have been there and done that. I honestly thought at the time that saying "no let's just be friends" and then carrying on being extra nice to him, and letting him have lots of physical affection, really wouldn't be a problem.
It's only now that I am older that I realise how awful it is to lead on some poor guy.
You HAVE to be careful with other people's feelings. She doesn't realise that yet so YOU need to take care of yourself.
Go cold turkey. Find something fun to do that will take your mind off her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, neil61 +, writes (24 January 2010):
neil61 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, I thought the same thing a while ago but I just found it too hard to stay away from her. she does do some of the things you said but she is also very nice. the other day when I was having insecurities about my looks and personality she spent an hour or two talking to me on msn reassuring me. I would try and get another girl but I am quite shy and she is just so easy to talk to. I'm pretty sure she's not trying to play me but then again you probably know better than me what's going through a girls head. thankyou :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2010):
She's a teenage girl. She wants you to think she's amazing and be nice to her and give her cuddles and make her feel good.
She is JUST discovering how good it feels to have a boy like you and let me tell you: It's better than crack cocaine.
However, she has not discovered the power she has to hurt men without even trying.
So she will be selfish without realising it. She will want you to carry on and not realise how she is going to break your heart by doing so and then going off with some other boy when she likes him better.
What you need to do is not put yourself in such a vulnerable position.
Take some time away from her. Hang out with your male friends and TRY HARD to get over her. Look at other girls and what is great about them. Fill your time and don't talk to her for a while.
Then when you are over her, see if you still WANT to be friends.
Quite often, once you have fallen for them and got over them, you realise that you only ever wanted to be more than friends or nothing at all.
Look after yourself. You will only get bitter and messed up and broken if you don't.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): I was in this situation a while ago and the way I dealt with it was to carry on being a friend and we're still friends today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): are you sure she knows that you are in love with her? how can she feel the same if she dosnt know? why dont you tell her how you feel, and if she dosnt feel the same when you tell her, then tell her you respect her honesty and you wish to carry on the friendship as normal, she will respect you for this.
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reader, Vcristina62  +, writes (24 January 2010):
hi! yes i have been in her situation and it made me feel really ackward knowing that my friend had strong feelings for me and i didnt share the same for him. It kinda made me not want to hangout with him because i always felt bad knowing he liked me. So this is my advice to you. Im assuming you want to remain friends? so the best thing for you to do is act like you don't have ANY feelings for her and date people and move on. Then she will feel less awkward and will be willing to hangout more and open up to you
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