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writes: I really love the guy I'm with. the mention of his name makes me smile uncontrollably. I smile regardless if I'm telling stories about our arguments or something funny he's done. He's absolutely amazing. we have been together for 3 months but I've known him for almost 5 years. Our relationship is perfect and we spend so much time together. He's so affectionate and sweet. The thing is, he left a week ago to stay with his family because he's on vacation until late October and now that he's gone, I can't help but to stare at other men and wonder what it would be like to be with them, especially when they come up to me and flirt but, when he calls me or Skype's me, and I hear his voice, I feel guilty because he's all that I really want as ironic as it sounds. I would never cheat on a person, I couldn't so why do I feel like this ? Is it wrong? what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't talk to other guys, They attempt to talk and flirt with me but I talk to them like I'd talk to any friend never anything more. I noticed them because he's been gone but I don't chat with anyone. He's all I want I do love him... Thanks for the advice though! I appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2013): I really don't think anyone can know but you for sure why, but from the outside looking in at what you've said...it seems to me you do like this guy and the relationship is new so everything feels "perfect" as it always does in the beginning, but he's more of a safe person, a crutch, "having a boyfriend" but you don't really like him THAT much. When you *really* like someone or fall in love with them, you don't really notice anyone else in that way anymore, that interest in wondering about other people is gone.I wouldn't worry about it too much, as long as you do not do something stupid with another guy. No excuses or justifications for cheating on your partner. If you find you are more and more attracted to these other guys, then do the right thing and break it off with your boyfriend and remain single. There is nothing wrong with it all all. You are simply not ready to be in a serious relationship with someone right now, so you shouldn't have a boyfriend, just to have one. It's alright to be single and enjoy yourself. I know you said you wouldn't cheat, and that's great, but that includes having innappropriate conversations/flirting or internet connections with other guys too, even though it seems like harmless fun. You are only asking for trouble and sabatoging what you do have.
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reader, loony89 +, writes (27 September 2013):
It's totally normal to have thoughts about other people, women, men, whatever. You are human and you have sexual desires. As long as you don't act on it or check out emotionally you are fine. Having little crushes does not mean you don't love him or are a cheater. If you reallly feel bad about it, talk to your bf and be straight up with him. Get his opinion on this and ask if this has ever happened to him.
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