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writes:Me and this guy have been best friends for ever. He lives right beside of me, we go outside, hang out all the time. We have so many things in common, we just "click." We started dating a few months ago, but we broke up and decided it was better off as friends. But recently he confessed to still have feelings for me, and i am utterly in love with him. He knows I like him too. But he is dating a "friend" of mine. We aren't really like as close as we use to be, we aren't necessarily friends, we just talk. Ya know? Well it's confusing. And he says he likes her, but then he doesn't. He is so confused about this whole thing also. And plus he keeps telling me all of the stuff she mentions and brings up, and she is really annoying. She wants to hug/kiss, etc all the time, which he doesn't like. Back to the problem, i am in love with him, my bestfriend, my neighbor. What do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): this guy doesn't know who he wants, but i wouldn't get involved when he's talking about the other person, only because it could cause even your friendship to end, just be his friend for now and say to him when he talks about her sort it out i know you want him but usually the bigger person wins in the end sounds like you have nothing on her just wait and he will come to you if he's th jelouse type try it see how he reacts all the best.
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reader, Ven +, writes (20 October 2010):
You have to respect the relationship he is in now. As long as they are together, you need to shut him down and keep your distance. I know that it's hard to do when you love someone, but if you encourage him to not respect his current relationship you are reinforcing the idea that he doesn't need to ever respect his relationships.
That is a dangerous thing to do if you want to be the next woman on his list. So give him space, tell him to work out his current relationship, and don't talk to him about it. Don't let him come to you for advice, and don't get caught in any of his relational drama. If he has issues with her, he needs to talk to her and not you (again, don't train him to run to other women with complaints).
Above all of that, you owe it to your friend to not get in between her and the man she is dating. Don't do anything that is going to give you grief or regret later on.
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