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writes:I have fallen in love with a friend of mine. I have never told him how I feel, although he must know that I am attracted to him as we have slept together in the past. This only made our friendship stronger. Nothing romantically came from it, in part because I wasn't interested in him in that way at that time, but distance was also an issue for me.He lives a long way away and we keep in touch via Facebook, usually chatting 2-3 times a week. My feelings for him have grown over the last few months through our conversations.Recently he has met someone else in his home town and he tells me they are in love. I have had to endure endless hours of him talking to me about her and this really hurts. I try to come across as the supportive friend he wants me to be but I am finding this almost impossible. Now he wants me to go down and visit him, I may even have to meet the new girlfriend!Should I end the friendship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): you should tell him your in love with him.. he may be using this other girl as a cover to see how you really feel... tell him! LIFES TO SHORT
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): He is not available. You need to break contact or you will break your own heart.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Ending the friendship would be a very selfish act on your part! He doesn't know that you like him, some people need things spelt out for them, so its your fault that he Is oblivious. Focus your attention on something else and keep yourself busy, this will take your mind off him! Go and visit him, it would be a shame to lose him as a friend, and who knows, you may even get on really well with his girlfriend! X
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reader, bellaaddison  +, writes (8 May 2009):
You may have to face the fact that he truly sees your relationship as one based on friendship only. If you aren't willing to be honest with him, you can't expect to know just what it is he feels. Perhaps he's taken a girlfriend because he doesn't think you have any feelings for him beyond friendship?? I understand that it can be difficult to work up the courage to share your feelings but the reality is, if you don't, you will NEVER know. What's a worse fate?? Questioning yourself and your relationship or knowing exactly where you stand? I don't think you can make a clear decision about ending your friendship until you know exactly what the definition of your relationship is. TALK to him!! You stand to lose nothing at this point and if your ego or pride is what is standing in the way, you will lose those by suffering in silence anyway.
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