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writes:Hello, I am a female in love with another female. The woman I am in love with has denyed she feels the same way. However I am convinced she does feel the same way, but because she is married and because of other circumstances she is not admitting it to me. She has told me that nobody is more important than me. Our main contact is through emails. I have been suggesting to her for weeks that I don't feel very important to her because her emails are so few and far apart. I always email her back within an hour or two after I receive her emails. She says she is just busy and that I am very important to her. I suggested to her that maybe we shouldn't continue our friendship because of my feelings for her and she insisted that we needed to stay friends. Anyway I thought I would wait a few days before emailing her back this last time to see what she would do. And much to my surprise not even a day went by and she sent me another email asking me the following: "Where are you? I have checked my mail and you haven't! Whats up?" I thought it was interesting that she can go for a week or so and not email me but I don't even get a day and she is emailing me wondering where I am. My question is what do you make of this??Thank you, I really need your opinion!!K-- Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I agree with ALL thats been said. Good Advice.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Ok, I don't think she is romantically interested in you. I know that is not what you want to hear but I think you should at the very least entertain the idea.
Lets look at things this way,
1)You email her back within a few hours of her emailing you normally, so when you don't its natrual that she would be concerned about what has happend to you.
2)She tells you there is no one more important to her? Maybe she loves you as a friend and wants to keep you in her life as a friend and is trying to tell you how important to her you are? She could just be a nice person.
3) She is married.
Nothing else really needs to be said to this point.
There will be other answers here telling you to "hold on" "chase the one you love" and all that other stuff for you to read if that is what you want.
My advice is to respect what your friend is telling you... she is not interested in a romantic realtionship with you,
If you don't she may get fed up and not want contact then you have lost a good friend.
2) start to see other people and take time for yourself. YOu will find the one you want to be with and who wants to be with you.
Sorry if I caused offence.,
Best of luck 2 you.
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reader, kelsi +, writes (13 May 2008):
kelsi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI hear what you are saying and totally agree with you. However you didn't really answer my question.
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reader, Aliki-baby  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 If you love her, then wait for her. As you said she is married, so she's dealing with another love and working out what's happening next. But I must warn you, do NOT have an affair with a married woman. 9 times out of 10 when you get caught, you'll never end up with her. She'd chase her spouse and they'll get back together. You'll be branded a slag and a home wrecker. Don't go there, unless she leaves her partner first.
Good luck Lex--
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