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writes:Hey this is gonna sound really pathetic but im lost. I'm 21 am totally in love with a 16 yr old... have too many feelings for her... i would do anything for her...friends say shes a slag and a bit of a maneater etc and they call themselves her friend... should i tell her what she counts as "her friends" think of her...will she hate me? or should i keep quiet?My sister doesnt like her at all... I'm not with this girl at all its just i have so many feelings for her im scared and worried when we ent in contact...do i let her know how i feel even if it upsets my sister...i know the age gap isnt a good thing but its only a number... i really love her...Im a 21 yr old...only had 2 proper gf's and longest relationship 3 months sounds pathetic... maybe i am. I am a virgin... which im not too proud of... i wish i cold relive my life...Im scared... I know im not the best looking in the world... I know im not the thinnest in the world... I know i have a tidy personality and am sweet... even she always says that... just wish she would see that the "fit" boys she likes only want her for one thing! and the "not so fit" one who thinks the world of her...would do anything for her... and would love her for being the totally wonderful girl she is...I know that guys use her for a fact... things happen between them and when they talk about her afterwards they just regret it or use her to show off.. Im so pissed off... wud i get more girls if i was that kind of guy? Whats wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): im having same problems mate im in love with a girl so much that when i see her i get a little nervous, what shall i say to her if anyone can help? she thinks im her best friend but i want to be so much more than that. help as much as you can please, thanks
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reader, vixie +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Dont tell the girl what her friends are saying because if she finds out off you she might hate you for it. I think if you love this girl tell her how you feel about her before its to late. i was in love with a 20 year old and im only 16 and i thought he didnt like me as more than a friend and only now that ive got a new boyfriend that he text me and told me he liked me alot and now i only wish he had told me before. so tell her how you feel before its to late. write her a letter telling her how you feel about her. who cares what everyone else thinks if you love her dont let her go and dont worry about your past experiences with girls so what if your a virgin and so what if your longest relationship was only 3 months dosnt mean this one wont work so go for it and good luck.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (25 September 2006):
A lot of people go for people who just use them, and often this comes back to their insecurities. They do not see that they are worth more then just that. They don't think they could do any better- better being that they could be with somoene who fully loves and respects them and treats them right.
Also this girl is 16, and at that age, a lot of people are shallow and go out with people based purely on their looks and popularity status.
So maybe one of those are the reasons why she goes for guys like she does. Maybe, since her being 16, she isnt looking for more then just a phyiscal attraction?
If people such as your friends and sister are trying to 'warn' you about this girl, do u think maybe they do have some valid points? Often the people close to us, know whats right for us, as people often get blinded by love. Maybe your friends and sister are just trying to warn you, to save yourself from geitng hurt. But...on the other hand they would just be being over protective. So you have to really think, are what the people who r close to you, saying valid points or not?
Either way, you said you really love this girl, but seem to feel insecure in yoruself and aren't sure if you should tell her or not. I understand why you are debating about whether or not to do it, as you dont see yourself as the most attractive person and she seems to have a pattern of going out with good looking guys.
I think its always a good idea to let the people you know who you love, that you love them. If you don't you will forever be thinking 'what if i told them' and that will probably drive you crazy. I know its scary telling someone how you feel about them, especially when you don't have much self confidence in yourself, but even the 'perfect' people feel like that. If you tell her how you feel then u have a huge chance to gain alot from the situation. Where as you dont, you can only miss out on something that could of been great.
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Whether you could get more girls being like that, would you really want to be that kind of a person?
There is nothing wrong with you being the person you are it's just you are yet to meet the right person and when you do that person will love you for who you are and not in any way want you to be someone else.
If you really want to tell this girl how you feel about her then I would go for it, you don't have anything to lose just maybe gain from it and if she doesn't feel the same way as you at least then you can start trying to move on from her.
Good luck :o)
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