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writes:I’m in love with a much older man. I myself am only 17, but he is 60. I know that he’s far to honourable to share my feelings but sometimes it feels like he might. We’ll sit on his couch for hours and listen to music, he tells me about the bands and songs... Sometimes we’ll just talk, and his hand will wind up holding my feet, and my face will wind up just a little too close to his; and I’ll feel the sudden need to reach out and kiss him. He’s so smart, and charming... I can’t stop thinking about him...He means so much to me and I KNOW he loves me. Just not the way I love him... I think he thinks of me like a daughter (this just infuriates me.) He’s 6’1 and has the most GORGEOUS eyes.But, alas, I know it’s better for him if I rid myself of these feelings. The only problem is- I CANT. I’ve never felt like this before, and truth is I’ve never really been into guys my own age, or really anyone. Just him. I need him... What do I do now? I just want to have one kiss... ugh. Help?
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reader, riceinabowl  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 Im in the same situation but the guy I like is 56-58.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): You have to enjoy this for what it is. At 17 it's difficult to understand how men think, let alone what you want or what you should expect from ANY relationship. Enjoy it, but set your expectations properly. What do you want from him? What does he want from you? Ask him. Tell him. Communicate. That's where is starts.
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reader, cardinal +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Giiiiiiirl we are in the same boat!!! I'm also 17 and my bf is a lot older...not 60, but 47. If you seriously love him then say so. See what happens. Hey you never know!!! Take the risk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): Whoa, slow down. If you really want to hook up with him, you better wait another year (until you're 18).
But even then, he has way more experience than you do. I don't know, it just doesn't sound too right to me, but when you're 18, you can do whatever you want.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 No adverse criticism from me, "DoubleM"; you are spot on, as usual.
OP, you just can't help your feelings or whom you fall in love with, so never mind what others think - it's your life, do what you want with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): It may be ok to be with him short term but in 10yrs when he's 70 how will you feel?
This man has years of life experience behind him and probably knows how you feel and how to impress you. Which he clearly has
Tread carefully and enjoy it if you must but look at the bigger picture and how he would fit into your life, family social circle or how much you would have to give up if it was long term
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 April 2011):
 Well, that's quite an age difference, and I'll be criticized for being biased as an older man myself, but so what? Since the 1960s, and undoubtedly for thousands of years before, couples have paired from all age groups. Who cares? Do whatever makes you happy!
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