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writes: Met a great guy one month ago. He just wants to be friends but I have fallen in love with him. It has now been six days since we last spoke and he does not answer his phone or my SMS. Reply to this Question
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reader, becky05 +, writes (14 July 2005):
Forget about him. He's told you he just wants to be friends.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 July 2005):
 This is a pretty sure sign that he's uncomfortable. Leave off with the communication and try to accept that he really only wanted to be friends.
A month isn't long enough to fall in love with someone. It really isn't. What you have is an infatuation with him, and it's getting a bit out of hand with your constant badgering. You're only a small step away from scary-stalker territory, so you'd be wise to recognise that he's told you already he's not interested in you in that way.
You can't "make" someone return your affection, so it's best just to learn to accept that.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (13 July 2005):
 I think he is trying to tell you that you can't be anymore than friends in his eyes and that is just the way it has to be. You don't have much choice but to accept it.
I wonder how you managed to fall in love with him anyway if he was keeping you at arm's length.
It could be more so that you are just infatuated with him.
Go out and meet other people. Develop your life with other interests.
Don't try to ring him again, use all the self control you can muster. If he wants to talk to you, he will ring you.
Good luck.
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