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writes:im 17 and in love. I am letting him play me, with 3 other girls because when we are on our own i feel like im his only one. I put to the back of my mind that he is also seeing 3 other girls!I want to get over him but can't bare my life without him. What he gives me is minimal, but i take everything i can!I dont want a lecture on how shit hes treating me, i just want to know how i can get over him and where to start! this has been going on since august, and i stupidly slept with him a week ago! I want to get over him in style...not think hes got away with messing me around! i want to be in control for once! HELP!N xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, cheekym3 +, writes (24 April 2008):
cheekym3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi guys, thanks so much for posting so quickly! they are fab answers! the only thing is, there is no one else, i wna be able to say, no sorry im alredy seeing 'fred' tonight BUT there is no fred, and it wud kill me if i had to know that im at home while hes rung up sumone else and spent the evening with them.We use to be an item over a year ago, i stupidly dumped him because i was his first girlfriend n he was too clingy. He has now changed soooo much.I do sooo much for him, pick him up from college when i just got home an hr before, take him to croydon to go tiger tiger and then go home myself, i wud doo anything and everything for him...probably because i hope deep down he'll realise how good i am to him and for him!none of his otha 'girls' wud do half as much as what i do for him!when we r on our own its asthough we r madly in love, that is how he makes me feel. when we slept together...we had champagne n strawberries. everything was perfect!if he jus wantd sex from me, why did he wait so long for it....i heald on to 'OUR' virginity with each other for aslong as i cud! Why did he wait?he gives me no answers! and when we kiss, and look into eachothers eyes, i cnt help but see more than 'fuck buddies'. am i jus imagining it?RAMBLING AGAIN :s
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 April 2008):
Dress incredibly sexy and then completely ignore him.
You know you are better than this little creep. He's just a little boy.
Don't let him get away with this. He's probably thinking he's God's Gift to women.
If he asks you why you're ignoring him just tell him you've decided you want a boyfriend so are dressing up to see what your options are. If he says ANYTHING about him and you then smile at him kindly and tell him that although you've enjoyed his attempts at love making, it's really time for you to find a real man rather than a boy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): To get over him in style you need to be strong, stay away from him and let him do the chasing after you - if he's genuinely interested in you thats what he will do. If not, maintain your dignity, show him that you don't need him in your life.
The more you lay at his feet, the more he will treat you like a door mat. I agree with hlskitten about not making yourself so available to him.
Treat him like he's treating you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Generally p!ss him off! Comment on other hot guys when he is around. Act like you're not that bothered about him either, because if he sees you're devoted, then he'll think he's getting away with it. It might seem immature, but you've got to show him you're not that bothered about him either.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hi N
Awful isn't it when the time togtehr is so good you forget the pain in the but things that knot your stomach when they're not with you.
Not too sure what you can do aprt from getting out there and meeting other people.
Making yourself less and less available to him, and when he asks whats wrong, you letting him know that because he's not only dating you, you are looking for someone more suited to you.
He certainly doesn't sound like he's in any hurry to settle with one person. Probably a bit too young yet i guess.
Cant think of anything else you can do.
It sucks ey.
C xxxx
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