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writes:i have a problem.i went out with this girl about 6 years ago for a few months and got on really well, just she was pretty young then.i am 4 years older than herwe both moved on and i never really forgot her.i got married but my marriage broke up about 6 weeks ago.i saw this girl around and we started chating and got on really well.she agreed to meet me as a friend so i could tell her all that has been going on.we had a great night and got on really well, like old times, she then told me she has boyfriend of 10 months and is happy with him.she seemed to be flirting with me abit and she also told me she has cheated on her boyfriend she slept with someone else just once but regrets it now.then towards then end of the night we started talking about the old times.i then said she was still lovely and wished we had stayed in contact.she then said if only i had met you when i was older, i like you so much and you are just so lovely.but likes her boyfriend as well.i then texted her at weekend and told her i have feelings for her and am attrached to her just pity she has a boyfriend.she replied that is nice of you to say i have never forgot you , but am with somebody else now and just want to remain friends with you.i was gutted, just dont what to do ?any advice would be good ,do i just leave it and carry on as friends and if her relationship stops will be there for her or do i just put her out of my life . and move on
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reader, Girl14 +, writes (16 April 2007):
 All i will say is even if you dont get her, stay in contact! You will seriously regret it, when you cant get her out of your head, and you arent in contact in the future. If she means that much to you, maybe you can live with just being friends.
Its better than nothing right?
Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): From a girls point of view, I hate having male friends that are only friends with me because they want to get together, waiting around like you said, that’s not a true friendship.
If you truly want to be friends with her then that’s fine but would you still want to be friends if she married this guy or if she broke up with him but didn’t get with you?
I think you should move on, you can tell her to ring you if things ever change but get over her and dont keep in contact. Personally if someone couldn’t choose me over someone else I would never have a relationship with them.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 April 2007):
 Your marriage finished six weeks ago. I'd give yourself some time to grieve before you jump straight back into a rebound situation. There's plenty of time and if things are meant to be with this girl she'll be ready for the relationship at the same time as you but for now I'd get used to being single before you fling yourself headfirst into another relationship.
CD
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