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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been in a wonderful relationship for two yrs having been single for most of my life. I love him dearly and he is very loving in return however, he does not believe in marriage and I want to, I've always wanted to. At the moment I'm finding I'm not feeling secure or happy without any obvious reason. I feel I love him more than he loves me and its making me feel worse. I don't really know whats going on; except I feel I've lost my spark and I'm irritable. I'm confused! Is there anyone out there who has a clue? Lol. Some perspective would be welcomed. Thanks!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 September 2009):
I'm afraid it comes down to this:
You want to get married, he doesn't.
You both seem toi have different goals and beliefs, so I would recommend moving on from him because you're not going to be happy at all.
there are other guys out there who belive in marriage and you'll find one. Lots of luck.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (20 September 2009):
I know you love him and I believe you, but you have to realize that you two aren't on the same page as far as what you want in life. He doesn't believe in marriage and you do. It's not really fair to YOU if you stay with him simply to stay with him because you love him, yet you don't get to fulfill the things in life that you want: marriage. His idea of not believing in marriage isn't going change by any pursuasive argument that you may have, if anything, it will just make him stick even more to his belief in not getting married.
It's been two years, so now it's time for you to decide if you want to keep wasting years on a man that won't marry you or to break it off with him and find someone else that wants the same things in life that you do. I know some will suggest an ultimatum, but I would be much happier knowing that a guy wants to marry me because he loves me and wants to be with me the rest of his life and not because he felt like he "had to" in order to stay with me.
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