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writes: I'm engaged and I am happy in my relationship, but I recently felt a strong connection with another woman. I think about her and email her alot but I am not sure how to deal with it. I am very confused and any suggestions would help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006): I haven’t told the other woman that I am engaged, and I don’t know how to tell her I may be leading her on. Does this change your opinion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006): It sounds like there is something lacking in your relationship with your fiance, that you are not entirely happy. Up until now, was your fiance the only woman you connected with. Maybe you crave the excitement of knowing that you do have other options other than your fiance, that you can connect with other women besides her. If you feel at this point that you want to explore the other options, you may not be ready for marriage. Marriage is an extraordinary commitment, and it would certainly be unfair to your fiance to make that commitment if you are not ready for it yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): my bf was doing the same thing to me behind my back until i caught him and read the emails, now i dont trust him anymore, do you want your girl friend to feel that way 2?, do you wnat to stuff this up?, if everything is so great then why are you emailing another women? stop doing this or your going to lose something great and once its gone you may never get it back and you will be kicking yourself because of it.
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reader, shania  +, writes (30 January 2006):
 I wonder how happy you really are with your fiance? The reason i ask this is because if you were really that happy then why would you be emailing this other woman and having a strong connection with her? It might be a fleeting crush that you have with her.If i was you, i would stop emailing this other woman and back off,and see how you feel then.Because while there is contact with the other woman you are not going to be thinking clearly.Once you have done that,you will know whether you have really missed her and whether you still want to be engaged to your fiance.Its a tough decision and one that really only you can decide.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (30 January 2006):
 Your question leaves a lot of important information out. Did you know this woman before your relationship with your fiance or did you meet her after? Is this a situation where you actually met through the internet? Any way you look at it, you are emotionally pulling away from your relationship with your fiance, keeping that in mind I would say that you are probably having now or heading toward an emotional affair. This type of affair can be devastating to even the strongest relationships, if you do not end all contact with this woman you will ruin what you have with your fiance. In my honest opinion if you are not willing to stop all communication with this other woman then you need to break it off with your fiance, you are being very unfair by giving this kind of attention to another woman. If you decide to stay with your fiance you will probably have a struggle trying to decide whether or not to tell her about these feelings you had towards this other woman. I will caution you that more often than not the truth comes out in the end no matter what your decision is, and you risk losing your fiance over this even if you end it with the other woman. I really hope you do what is right in this situation, and only you can decide what that is, good luck.
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