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writes:[Mod Note: OP's Title]I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years, we've been through sooo much together and stayed together through it all, i have had my doubts before but i've never been interested in anyone else before. we both went out with friends and i met this girl, we hit it off straight away and i felt such a strong connection, now i can't stop thinking about her. we've been talking, as friends, because i think it's one-sided and i'd would never want to deceive my girlfriend, this girl knows my girlfriend and doesn't seem like she'd try come between us but i am sooo confused, i don't know what to do. i think it's just a crush but i'm scared it's going to develop into something else and i have no idea how to deal with it. PLEASE HELP! x
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 If you love your GF and want to be with her, then do not pursue this person. As guys, we rarely have female friends who we wouldn't bed down if given the chance. Girls know this. If you start talking to this girl a lot, then you run the risk of cheating. Even if you don't ever physically cheat, emotional cheating can be just as devistating to a relationship. Keep your interactions with this girl to social situations, and don't seek out any private rendevous.
If you do decide you would want to try something with this girl, then your best bet is to end things with your GF first. The new girl likely doesn't want to be someone with whom you've cheated. Starting a relationship in that manner is also a bad sign. Just make sure you've sorted out all your emotions and thoughts on the subject before you make a move.
So, you need to pick a course of action and stick with it. Personally, I'd have trouble giving up a 2 year relationship for the unknown unless that relationship was more work than it was worth. Sometimes we stay with someone because we're comfortable with them and things aren't that bad, rather than because we're happy. How happy are you?
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