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writes:this guy has liked me for over a yr now. about 3-4 months ago we started dating. a few weeks ago, he got kicked out of his house and got a new job. he works A LOT, and when he's not working, he's hanging out with his friends. that leaves no room for me in his schedule. he has gradually started texting me less and less until he goes a week without saying hi. the other day he finally texted me, and i texted back telling him that whenever he finds any free time, i would like him to come over so we can talk. he said ok, but didn't try seeing me. ever since then, he's been completely ignoring my calls, my texts, and even my messages on myspace. i feel like a crazy, b****, psycho gf.. but i'm not. i'm just trying to find out what's going on. i understand that his life is complicated right now, but there is no reason for him to completely blow me off. what should i do???!!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 July 2008):
Oh wow, I have dealt with this type of guy! From my experience it will just keep happening over and over again. I know how it feels to think that you must be "psycho" or "crazy" because you keep trying to contact him. I've felt the same way. It's because you need answers. As frustrating as it is, you have to quit contacting him. Do not respond to him until he comes to you. Another mistake I've made from that "relationship" or whatever the hell it was, was going right back to him after he apologized for ignoring me. Don't do that. Ignoring him when he contacts you does wonders as well. Even though that's hard, it really makes him want you. But in the end, it's really a bunch of games--and they're stupid. Just stupid childish games. Someone that immature has trouble being in a commited relationship. So even if he does contact you again (which he probably will), expect to be disappointed again if you stay with him. But we all have to learn from our own mistakes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy horoscope.
Friday, Jul 11th, 2008 -- Asking a friend or a lover for what you want can be more complicated now than just keeping it to yourself. Of course, hiding your feelings diminishes your chances of satisfaction. Keep in mind that there really isn't any urgency except your drive for pleasure. Removing the need for immediate gratification allows you to reach a deeper level of intimacy with someone special.
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Friday, Jul 11th, 2008 -- Trying to regain your composure is a healthy sign, especially if you dealt with significant relationship issues this week. Although you think it's time to put your life back in order, it may not be as simple as you wish. Working with others and acknowledging their divergent desires can complicate your day, but you won't be able to proceed without them. Take it slowly and give them, and yourself, plenty of time to adjust to the new emotional landscape
creepy or what?
i've been hearing rumors that he has been cheating on me with this girl, but i KNOW they are not true. i do believe, however, that he might like her.. i obviously haven't gotten the chance to talk to him about it, because he's avoiding me. i've decided to take your guys advice and just stop trying to contact him until he comes around. and maybe even when i get a text from him.. i'll play him at his own game and not respond for awhile. i'm really crazy about this guy, and all of our mutual friends say he's crazy about me... i just don't understand because he told me he didn't need space.. but he's taking all the space he can get..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): I'm so sorry that you are going through this. But the best thing to do is just move on....he apparantly has, or he is just waiting until he needs something from you to get into contact. Don't feel like you are the crazy one....Love can really mess the mind up. Just hold your head high with respect and move on. You don't have to text him and let him know what a piece of work he is....Just move on, and when and if he does find the time to contact you, just sweetly tell him life has moved on, and so have you. Perhaps this will be a life lesson for your boyfriend. Please know I will pray for you. God Bless!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Dearkelja has totally taken the words right out of my mouth. Read her advice at least three times.
While I hope that you will get a happy resolution out of this situation, I think that he has taken the coward's way out, and you may never really know what happened with him.
Good luck.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (11 July 2008):
 The best thing to do is to leave him alone as long as you can stand it. If he doesn't try to communicate with you, it would seem to me he is giving you the brush off. I can understand wanting answers and I know that you deserve them but my guess is the guy knew you were going to be having the talk and that is why he has "become distant."
Being busy and having issues is no excuse to leave someone in the cold like he has done but maybe in time he will come around. But brace yourself, maybe he wont and you may never know what happened.
You could try going to see him in a week or so (if he doesn't contact you) to see what he has to say but I truly don't know if he'll be honest with you or if anything he has to say will make you feel better.
One thing is for sure, the more you push him for answers, the more he will run the other way. I hope he does call you and that you work out all the issues.
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