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writes:hi my boyfriend ex got in contact with me cos she 7months pregant by him and she's a nut job saying that im only a rebound but infact he left her for me. but she said he never use to go out always moaned about it a never really drank. she went on to tell me that he slowly isolated her form her friends so forth she was with him 6 years before me i madly in love with him so i don't belive a word she's saying and i asked him and he said clearly she's a nut job she keeps sending me things on facebook saying i'm noting but a home wrecker and she sent it to my friendsso i told her i bring her to court if she contuiesthing is i don't know who to belive and anytime i bring it up with my fella he says just ingore her like i do she not worth it.. so like what do i do
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reader, notagain  +, writes (25 December 2010):
I would say get out of the relationship. The girl is pregnant. If he is the father, you are going to have to deal with her while you're with him. Tell him to get a paternity test and if it's not his and he cuts her off completely, then you should try again with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): There's no smoke without fire. He can easily just call her a nutjob, but if that's the case then why did he stay with her 6 years? Then dump her for you, which kinda suggests to me that you and he were getting it on while he was still with her. I'm not judging you but he doesn't sound like the most savoury of characters. He dumped his pregnant girlfriend for another woman?
You can bring her to court all you like, but they're going to have a child toegther now, so unless he's a scumbag that won't take of his kid then he can't just ignore her. In fact she'll be a part of his life forever because they have a kid.
Now she thinks you're just a rebound, so that means he lied to her about what happened between you and he. You seem to think this is a good thing.
You're in trouble to be honest, the guy you're in love with doesn't exactly sound like a good catch, he has far too much baggage and this whole thing isn't because she's a nutjob, how would you react if your boyfriend of 6 years that you're pregnant, just ups and leaves you for another girl, and you don't even know that he dumped you for another woman because he lied to you about it, so you think he dumped you, then met another girl on the rebound, the feckin' mother of his kid? Seriously, you're 7 months pregnant with all those hormones and stuff and you've been abandoned by the father how would you react?
The only thing she's doing wrong is the same thing you're doing wrong, he's playing you both and you're blaming each other like this guy is some kind of saint. He's telling you she's a nutjob and he's told her that you're his rebound.
She's blaming you and you're blaming her, but this guy gets off scott free because he has two girls that love him really badly and just can't see any bad in him.
I'm sorry but you have a hell of a future with this guy, she's always going to be around unless he shirks his responsibility as a father, if he does that then you better make sure you don't get pregnant too because he'll do the same to your kid. Do you really want to be with a guy that treats the mother of his child that way? Or one that abandons his kid? You're just going to have to get used to this, maybe she'll calm down after a while maybe not, but she'll always be around and you two will always blame each other, when in fact he's the puppet master.
He's no saint in all this, don't let your love cloud your judgment and realize that this isn't going to be some fairy tale for you, if he can't stand being around her now, then just imagine all the petty back and forth crap that happens when the kid comes. It will never end.
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