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writes:Hi, I'm 21 and I was raised by conservative parents to believe that I would someday find my "prince" and I would live happily ever after. When I was 17 I met him and he was my first kiss/time/love, he's amazing, he's everything I want for the rest of my life. He's the guy I'd like to marry when I'm 30, he's my best friend. But the thing is: we've been together for 3 years and my mind has changed a LOT since I started dating him, I feel now that I have to live my life you know? Experience new things, kiss more people, find out more about my sexuality, be single for a while, party, drink, live.What do I do? I don't want to lose him, but I also want to experience more, I'm young. I know I'll never find someone like him again. I'm so lost, I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2014): Hi. Something to think about is : ..how deeply do you care and love him. Because if you start going around kissing other guys, you may lose him. Plus you may lose your friendship as well. You did mention that you are best friends, so obviously he is important to you. If you truly want him for the rest of your life as you say. Stop wanting to be a party girl and build your life around him... if he is not the man of your dreams..go party
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (14 October 2014):
 You say: "I know I'll never find someone like him again", but you don't know that at all. You have no idea who you'll meet.
You're not ready to settle down, so explain this to him and then go off and experience more of life. If afterwards you want to get back together with him and he's available, then take it from there.
It's not fair on him or you if you stay with him without being happy about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2014): You change a lot between your late teens and your mid twenties.
You have just grown into incompatible adults.
Follow your heart and don't kid yourself. Staying with him when you've changed will make you both miserable because you will end up leaving or resenting him.
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reader, Kaytee092014  +, writes (14 October 2014):
I was in a similar situation but It was my boyfriend that wanted to experience the party life and meet other women. He cheated and then asked of I would leave for a few months and then come back. I left and didn't come back. I fell out of love with him after hearing those words. Today 4 yrs later were still good friends but it will never be the same. Becareful what you want in life.
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