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*ack1985
writes:HiI'm 22 and in a 5year long relationaship, but recently a girl I used to have the hots for arrived back in town, so we met up and went for a drink, I walked her home and one thing led to another... anyway she text me the next day saying how great I am and wants to see me next week, but we must keep this a secret as she too is in a long term relationship, but I don't know what to do, I can't get her out of my head, especislly when I'm with my girlfrinedAny advice?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (25 August 2008):
 How exciting! And what a buz! But wait....you each are with other people!
What she wants is her cake and eat it. Girls can be like it too!
Yes its thrilling, but someone that likes the risky thrills like this in life, are a dangerous gamble that wont pay off in the long run.
Thats the way i see it anyway.
If you've had enough of the long term girlfriend, why not split??
C xxxx
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reader, Taranis +, writes (25 August 2008):
 totally agree with Les. If you do decide to get together with this other girl then you better realise what you are about to loose with your long term g/f and don't think that if it doesn't work out with the new 1 that you can go straight back to where you were? do you think that you still have genuine feelings for this girl from years ago? or is it from back then and seeing her just brought them back to the forefront? until you decide these then i would 'keep it in your trousers', that's only going to cause more problems.
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reader, les  +, writes (25 August 2008):
This will be harsh, but..1. Reverse the situation. Imagine it was your gf that cheated on you like this - how big of a jackass would she be? What would people say about her when they found out. Would they say, oh yea she has a valid excuse, or would they say, oh wow what a b*tch im so sorry you had to go through that she's not worth it. Thats how you sound.. 2. Your actively questioning whether to continue cheating on your gf or break up with her for the girl described above. I mean, your ruining a 5 year relationship b/c she's hot? Even if its Heidi Klum I think that after five years you should have the respect, if not the love, for your gf to keep it in your pants. Its called wanting things you can't have.
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