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writes:I am really worried. My girlfreind told me on the phone that she flashed in front of sum mates and was talking to her freind about things we had done and her freind had done. She even admitted to seeing a mates penis non erect and erect. I felt really hurt and and slightly jealuous. She said it was all a joke but i felt really upset. i dont want to leave her how can i move forward? Reply to this Question
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reader, Helfer +, writes (25 June 2007):
 I had kind of the same thing a few days ago.
My gf got off with some girl while i was there.
She was completely drunk at the time, and didnt even remember it till somebody else brought it up.
I got quite jealous, feeling kind of inadequate, but i told her it bothered me, and she just reassured me that she was really drunk and it meant nothing.
That's what you need you to do.
If she says it meant nothing and it was all a joke, you just have to try and forget about it.
At the end of the day, she came back to you right?
That's what matters!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): The positive thing here is that she TOLD you about this, yeah? She didnt hide it from you so she appears honest. Thats good!
As for her flashing at people, did you tell her that it upset you? Would it upset her if you were showing your bits to other girls??
The best thing to do is to talk about it with her and tell her if something bothers you. Be polite, dont accuse or confront and dont make her out to be some kind of slapper. Be tactful and nice. Bring it up honestly and calmly like, "I was thinking about what you said yesterday when you said you flashed some guy... I didnt really like the thought of you doing it" or something like that and see what she says.
As for her seeing a guys penis, well, I wouldnt make a great issue of it because, again, she told you and Im sure if you made an issue of it it would seem like you were worried she would like his better than yours. You need to be careful not to get too sucked in to the point that you lose touch with yourself as a person and start losing self confidence.
Dont worry about any of this, girls talk to other girls and girls look at boys and if she flashes her bits once for a joke then hey its not the end of the world. She's with you for a reason. She is with you for YOU. Dont change into a green eyed monster because it can push her away. Keep being the guy she became attracted to and have fun.
Take it easy!
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