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*olfscar
writes:Hey. So I love this other girl in my class, S. We used to be great friends but now she hates my guts and wont tell me why. I just cant get over her. I realy dont know what to do. So anyways, yesterday my freind, Y, said would i go out with HER friend, M (bi or gay, cant remember wich), if she asked and i sed i didnt know. She then sed, why dont i go out with L, a girl in yr9 (in the year below us and is openly gay) and i sed because u diddnt know her, so now Y wants to introduce us and set us up.I dont know what to do. I really love S, but she hates me. I cant get over her. Also, i was going to ask out M but i dont think she would sau yes, i mean, im not exactly well liked by over 3/4 of my year so... i font know what to do.Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wolfscar +, writes (16 November 2014):
Wolfscar is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanx RubyBirtle. That does indeed make sense. I was not hoping for any advice in particular, just, well any advice realy so thank you. That dpes make a lot of sence. Yes the reason we origionaly fell out was bc of that, but we were ok again afer that and she hates me for a whole different reason now. Ill admit I think i have an idea why. It could be something to do with me going to the head of year about her and two other girls and them getting into a lot pf trouble. But she knows i didnt mean to get HER in trouble. Now she wont stop going to the head of year about me for silly little things, like speaking to her ect.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (15 November 2014):
To be honest, I'd hold fire off dating anyone at the moment. At least until you leave school (which won't be too long if you're the older end of the age-group you post)You can't go out with S (no matter how much you're crushing on her) because she's made it crystal clear that she doesn't want to so there's no point in waiting around for her. As far as I remember from some of your previous posts, your "falling-out" with S was because she found out that you fancied her and wasn't comfortable with that.It wouldn't be fair to date M whilst you're still hung-up on S. It won't necessarily help you get over her. And it's an unpleasant experience dating someone when you're really hankering after someone else. Dating should be fun.I appreciate it's not easy to simply forget about someone you've got feelings for, especially when you have to see them every day which is why I suggest you wait until you leave school.Once you've sat your GSCE's, you'll never have to see S again (unless you just happen to bump into her by chance) You can go off to college to sit your A-levels and meet a whole load of new people there. It'll be a hell of a lot easier to move on from your feelings for S when you don't have to to see her every day.On the other hand, there's no reason why you shouldn't get to know M as a friend. If you don't get on with most of your year-group, why not make friends from elsewhere....It's probably not the answer you're hoping for because when you're at school it seems like EVERYBODY is dating. But just think how good your GCSE results will be if you avoid all that dating drama..
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reader, Wolfscar +, writes (15 November 2014):
Wolfscar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk. I can safly say that that is not why S hates me bc she has said its not that. I dont fancy M, but i want to get my mind of S so....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): Ask m out , S wants nothing to do with you and you seem to fancy m. Sounds like you got too obsessed with S and she freaked out and backed off, wouldn't blame her.
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