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writes: Hi there!So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now.. And he has this I don't know what's the proper word, attitude? Where like if he's mad at me, he doesn't tell me why or he'll just treat me really coldly.. The thing is I try to like make him tell me what's up and why he's mad at me or something.. He's not the kind of guy who likes talking about his problems or share his feelings when he's mad/sad. At times, I panic when he seems moody because I have this fear that I've done something unintentionally wrong.. But it was just a false alarm :P But still I have this constant fear of it.. Because at one point we were having an argument and it got so bad that we actually broke up for like a month or two.. But we resolved those problems and like I'm trying to prevent any of the past situations from happening again, him too.. I know he loves me/ cares for me very much and I him.. Any ideas on how to get rid of this constant fear? I'm asking this because I just spoke with my boyfriend and he doesn't sound exactly alright, so I'm quite scared even though I think I didn't do anything. I said "you don't sound okay though" and he didn't receive the message.. But I texted him a short message for him as he's leaving for a camp tmr... Anyways help me please! I'll answer any questions you have! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2014): When you feel like you are always walking on eggshells around your significant other it's time to break up
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay :) I'll try!! Thank you so much!! I'll look you up if I need further help!!! :) x
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reader, Alexandra23  +, writes (15 November 2014):
Hi there, I think you should talk to your bf about this. When he is moody, it might not necessarily be because of you. And even if he is moody because of you (whether you did something unintentional or not that annoyed him), he is being passive and this is not healthy. not saying couples have to share every single detail about their emotions, but let him know you want a healthy communication between the two of you.
Perhaps it'd be difficult at first, but you can get him to start from the small things "How was your day?" "What made you so moody? Let me know so I can help" It took me awhile to get my bf to open up to me as well and we're still working on it. But at least I know he is making the effort. Best of luck!
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