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*utterflies68
writes:Me and my husband has been together for 16years.ive reacantly found out what my gutt has been telling me all this time to be true hes cheated on me for sometime now hes not denying it however he claims hes not doing it any longer and hes sorry but im still finding the girls #s andeverytime i ask him to get rid of them and talk to me aboute it to get threw it he gets very angry and nothings resolving the issue at hand and im still finding little things that points to him still hiding things behind my back hes 53 and im 46 so were not children and this is not my first rodeo however i love this man with all my heart and cant seem to let him go. So now what do i do? There were many wemon involved he says its over with all that and he still loves me theres so many emotions involed.need some good advise thanks
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (15 November 2014):
 He has left the marriage and you are in it alone. If he really loved you he would not hurt you in this way. Seems like he like the idea have having multi partners and the marriage as a safety net, ie a home and loving wife that care of his house, food and clothes. YOu are basically a free serviced made and his excitement is outside the marriage. Are you not honestly staying because he financially supports you? You are scared to be alone. Usually woman hide behind this as they are scared of walking out of their comfort zone. honestly how can you love some that has hurt you and shows no remorse as he continues to see other woman?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 November 2014):
Unless something changes he'll do it again (and again...). His promises, if he gives any, are totally worthless.
If you must stay with him then you need more than his word as he's proven that His word can't be trusted.
I think marriage counseling is a good start. He needs to know why he does this and needs to be committed to changing. Once again that doesn't mean promise you he won't cheat, it means he needs outside help.
If the only thing he offers you is a promise, then you need to either leave or accept the unfortunate reality here (meaning you have to share him).
Maybe you could have an open relationship so at least you can make some rules (and have some fun of your own).
Unfortunately there's no easy solution here, I really wish there was.
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