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writes: I'm having trouble with my personal feelings! I'm still in school and I've recently started having a crush on a teacher! The thing is, it's a female! I'm bisexual, but I've never really had feelings for any of the girls that I've been with. I've always preferred guys, so this feeling is strange to me.I spend a lot of time with this teacher as she's my sports coach, and I'm extremely sporty, and every time I see her my heart races and I find myself gazing at her almost wistfully. I don't know what to do, or how to control my feelings. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Since you're still in school, DO NOT label yourself lesbian/bi/w.e. There is only one way to find out what your sexuality is, and that's through experience, which no one will have had that much of if they're still in school. Don't worry about the fact your teacher is female though, I had feelings for a female teacher who left last year, and at first I felt the same way as you but now I am just thinking: What the HECK was going on in my head?!
:) So good luck with your studies/sport etc., and just enjoy yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): well if your bisexual then its understanable that you could feel that way about another woman i say talk to her and see if she would be cool with u wanting to be with in a relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): I am definately heterosexual, I know that because I would never enjoy having sex with another female. I have female friends that I am in love with or have that sort of feeling about. But at the end of the day, as much as I love them, there is a clear distinction between that love and sex. After you decide if you are bisexual or not, please don't label yourself. You are who you are and everyone should appreciate the positive things about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2005): I understand, Ii have been in the same situation with my sport teacher and we are both girls. It is fun to get a compliment from her or to give her one because you feel loved up. But try not to get too close because you don't want your teacher to start suspecting. If you can't take your eyes off her, don't let her see you because things could get weird.I feel sorry for you because I'm madly in love with the same sex at the moment and I can't get over her, as much as I have tried. It breaks my heart and I don't want you to get brokenhearted either. good luck! xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2005): YOU SAY YOUR BISEXUAL AND THINK ITS STRANGE TO BE ATTRACTED TO YOUR TEACHER/COACH. BEING ATTRACTED TO A TEACHER OR YOUR MENTOR IS NORMAL. THIS PERSON IS IMPORTANT TO YOU AND TAKES AN INTEREST IN YOU AND INCOURAGES YOU IN YOUR SPORT. DON'T DO ANYTHING TO JEPORDIZE THIS RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU ACT ON YOUR FEELINGS IT WILL PUT YOUR COACH IN A TERRIBLE SITUATION. SHE WILL HAVE TO EITHER TELL SOMEONE IN AN AUTHORITY POSITION OR PULL HERSELF OUT OF THE SITUATION. JUST ADMIRE HER FROM A FAR AND LOOK FOR SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE. GOOD LUCK.
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A reader, bluewillowskys, writes (17 March 2005): First off, you didn't mention your age or hers.... If you are in high school still then this is definitely a big no-no.... Look at what has happened in the news w/ teacher-student relationships... Spare your heart and wait for the right someone your own age.... But if you are in college, it's still not a good thing either. There are strict rules I believe, that prohibits such relationships as they are very unethical for the teacher and their careers.If you wait until you are no longer her student then I think it would be okay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2005): I think what your are feeling is normal. You most likely look up to this women. You see something in her that you want in yourself. But I don't think you should act on these feelings. Because she is your teacher, and well there are just laws against that. But there is nothing wrong with what you feel for her. Try to put the thoughts out of your mind. And focus on what it is about her that you admire so much. Work on that in yourself.Good Luck!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (17 March 2005):
 You have nothing to worry about. What you are feeling is normal; it is simply a crush, an infatuation but that knowledge doesn't really help you, does it? It just means that you are maturing and learning to cope with new emotions and feelings.Try to keep what you are feeling in perspective. It will eventually fade as time passes. In the meantime, try to focus your energies on your friends and other activities as well. It is okay to dream about your teacher, just remember that she can't compromise her position to get involved at all with you.Distract yourself by involving yourself in other events and activities and you will soon find a new focus for your attention.Good luck.
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