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writes:I am a divorced mother with 3 wonderful children. I am independent, financially secure, the only thing missing is a good man in my life... Then 7 month ago, I met this amazing man: handsome, sweet, loving, caring, committed, patient, kind, intelligent, successful... And most of all, we are really getting along and very compatible in almost everything! I say "almost", yes, everything but sex! I am a hot girl, I am good in bed and I am very pretty... But he is never HOT about me! I know how guys behave when they want me, come on, I dated... At the beginning I thought it was because his age or he has not been having it... But after 6 month I am really worried! I discovered that he has been meeting with a guy on regular bases at each other's houses... My gut feeling is that he is bisexual... But when I ask him, he denied it! I am in love with him...and we almost spend all our spare times together... I am sure he l
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013): Time to have a chat with him OP and look, I'm sure you're the most amazing lover ever etc. but just because a guy doesn't ejaculate at the sight of you doesn't make him bi. Some guys just don't have a high sex drive OP. Surely in your years of dating you've met one before.
Get rid of that idea for now. I spend most of my time with my male friends, doesn't make me gay.
Talk to him about your concerns OP, ask him if the frequency and type of sex is to his satisfaction but be prepared for this to possibly be a case of mismatching sex drives. It could be his age too. Just because he doesn't salivate at the sight of you and try to bend you over a table every 5 minutes doesn't mean he doesn't want you, he may well just not view sex as a priority or have a high drive OP.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 March 2013):
 Yuk! the real qustion is; Do I live with someone who may give me HIV AIDS because of his behavior with other men? Once you've figured out that he is bisexul then it's time to preserve your own life and that of your kids.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 March 2013):
If the only evidence that you have that he's bisexual is him going to this guys house, I think you're jumping to conclusions. It's likely that they're friends and are simply hanging out.
It's more likely that you're at your peak while he's not interested in sex anymore. That happens as hard as it is to believe.
It doesn't seem like you've tried talking with him about it. That might be a good place to start. Let him know that you have needs that aren't being met. Maybe you just need to be a "cougar" instead!
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