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writes:Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for about a year and a half, and I lost my virginity to him, and I love him. I truly do. But he has a friend... and I find myself really excited to see him, and I'm really friendly towards him, and I always feel happy around him, which doesn't happen all the time around anyone. and I find myself extremely attracted to him. he is very nice to me, and whenever he is in a group of friends, he always hangs around my boyfriend and me. and he smiles around everyone but I feel like it's different when he smiles at me... I can't tell if he likes me or not. What should I do? Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never dated that first friend that I liked before. and my current bf doesn't even know I liked him. I never dated him because I knew that it would hurt my bf, and it would be weird. I just didn't want to lie about my feelings. and I do truly love my boyfriend, and I do want those other feelings to go away. but as soon as I think they're gone, I see him, and they come back. my boyfriend is a really great person, but sometimes he's not as nice as he should be, and I'm not as nice as I should be. I get upset about some things easily, and he doesn't really console me. he just calls me a baby. and if in afraid to do some stuff, he calls me a pussy. he's not exactly a gentleman, but he can be really great at times. I just don't know what to do.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (2 August 2011):
 You've done this before? Your bf has got to be a v nice person for taking you back after going with his friend and guess what? You're about to do it again! You need to mature a lot more. Seems to me youe emotions are all over the place and you're not in control of them. A person is ready to date and settle when even if Mr handsome comes through the door you can look and then get your mind on other things. Let me ask why did you come back to your bf after dating 'that' first friend? Chances are he wasn't all what you had imagined he would be. Looks to me your making the same mistake again. Not sure how large a heart your bf has but he's safety net may not be in place when you fall this time.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 August 2011):
 Maybe you should leave your current BF and just be by yourself for a wee while and decide what you really want. Don't stay with your current BF if you don't really love him. It's a waste of time.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm attracted to his friend because he is nice, and outgoing, good looking, and very funny. he is really talented too, and I like his family a lot. and my family loves him and always talks about how great he is. this is my second time dating this boyfriend, and before, we broke up because of something similar. I began to have feelings for his other friend (who I had feelings for, for a long time before I had any for my boyfriend), and I didn't want to pretend with my boyfriend anymore. Help?
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (1 August 2011):
Don't go there! You will hurt everyone involved if you try and force this. Forget about the friend and concentrate on your BF.
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reader, Trinklett +, writes (1 August 2011):
You haven't said what it is that attracts you to this guy. Is he cute, funny, outgoing, what? The thing is you're there's always going to be someone out there apart from your partner you're attracted to; but how do you handle it? Something attracted you to your bf in the first place think of that and keep your emotions in check. They are bound to fly off the handle once in a while. Besides what happens when you're attracted to yet another friend?
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